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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
| Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am |
Hi Tziporah,
I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.
I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.
Welcome again!
(PS: I love the sound of your name!)

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Drop me an email and let's work on this together. I also want to start blogging again, so let's do this together.
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I guess the one side benefit is that I have caught up on my sleep--sleeping between attempts. And my nails are starting to heal. Now I am fighting the urge to cut my hair again. Tziporah
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
I think I am very ordinary. I can think of many more inspirational examples than myself.
I guess what bothered me in this blogging thing was constantly running up against barriers. Can't things ever be easy? Even once in awhile?
I have good news to share--I finally logged into the livejournal.com blog site. Of all of them, this was the easiest to figure out, very friendly, and uncomplicated. I am noting this because others might be as frustrated with blogging as I was.
I found the blogging on ivillage to be frustrating. the account setup was easy enough, especially since I am a member. The help I got from the ivillagetour was scanty at best. There were no explanations, like there are with the messge boards.
Once logged-in, I found myself inundated with so many editing options--styling fetures, and no matter how hard I tried, could not insert a message.
As for wordpress.com, it has tremendous access, perhaps the most of any blogsite. It has a better support team. However, I found entering my blog page very hard to do and was frustrated by that.
With livejournal.com, my first barrier came when I couldn't pass the security test which required typing in the letters and numbers in a box. Again, I was facing a barrier. I was very frustrated by now. I wrote them and was told how to fix the problem. I did what they suggested and am able to now report that I have completed creating an account. I then wrote them a second note suggesting they make the audio alternative feature appear on the main webpage itself so others won't be stuck as I was.
Well, you can imagine the relief, now that I overcame this first hurdle.
I got my account and then tried to start a blog page. They have a lot of instructional material to help new users and, of all the sites, this is the most straightforward and easy to use. I am tired, so I didn't study it more, but I don't think it will be too hard.
Only down side is that while going through this final procedure of setting up my account with the audio, I bit my cuticles again. Anxiety. I just wanted it to work already.
Since I also had other accounts on the other blog sites, how am I so certain this one will work? Because links to the various options appear on the home page, just like ivillage's home page, for example, in which there are links to the main categories. Neither ivillage.blog or wordpress.com blog had this straightforward linking.
Now I can rest and will try to actually set up a blog either tonight, tomorrow or Sunday, depending on my schedule.
Thanks for everybody's confidence in me. Tziporah
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
What I find amazing is your mind and your spirit :-)
I don't know whether Tziporah was your given name or one that you chose later on, but it is so you!
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Amanda, cl. I hope you are reading this. You were right. I thought I wouldn't enjoy blogging, but believe it or not, I actually do. I also enjoy reading other blogs--not everyone's, of course, but one or two have caught my eye that I wouldlike to read when I have the time. Haha--is there such a thing as having time for such leisure? I guess, like with everything else, I will have to find it.
My therapy is continuing to be intense. He is blunt, bluntly truthful, that is, which is where I am at right now. Very hard. Today after the session I needed to sleep several hours. It was that intense. My nails aren't perfect, but they are healing. I have had a few haircutting episodes over the past few days, but they are briefer, and I question myself before engaging in this. Is this really what I want to be doing? Sometimes I can overcome the urge, sometimes not.
My mother is starting to get on my back about my weight. every phone call she has to "remind" me about exercising to get my weight down. I am starting to feel the tension and anxiety again--ssix months till her next visit and I'm already feeling the tension and anxiety. You can bet your bottom dollar my t. is drilling that one. Tziporah
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Sorry I've been away. It's been a stressful week for me. My father needs looking after, which has its emotional implications for me.
My aunt died this morning, and in keeping with Muslim laws, she was buried later in the afternoon. She wasn't really my aunt in a blood-related way, but a very good and close friend of my parents. My father had known her husband since he was 16, and he was at their wedding all those years ago - 63 if I am not mistaken. He was the machinist of the train that brought her to her wedding.
I think I'll blog about this later in the week if I remember. Right now I am just trying to cope and not stress too much.
Tziporah, congratulations on your blog! I just went in right now and saw another post from you. Woo hoo! You have conquered the blog obstacles.
If I can suggest something. I think this is has to do more with formatting, but your blog is showing as one continuous piece without paragraphs, which makes it difficult to read. Maybe if you tap 'enter' twice instead of once between paragraphs it would work?
Sorry to read about your mom and the pressure it puts on you.
Tziporah, when you say spiritual life coach do you mean you'll be a life coach for only those who are Jewish like you?
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I also have an adopted aunt and uncle, who are very good friends of my parents. I don't see them often, but I have fond memories of them, so I can understand how you must be feeling right now.
Thanks for your blogging tip--I wasn't able to figure out how to paragraph. Such a simple thing--press enter twice and presto--it works.
I have been trying to think about this question of spiritual coaching, what I want my target population to be. In order to see how my blog looks now, after trying your suggestion, and finding my response to this question, which I imagine will be a continuous process, you can blog into my journal.
Send me your new blog addresses and I will have a read on yours.
If you have any other suggestions about how my blog can look more interesting, please sendthem along. I am limitted in this area because the braille output doesn't convey any of the visual features beyond basic paragraphing. I mean, color schemes, the way the page is laid out, etc.--I miss all of this. I get the items, but they are usually presented in a straightforward vertical linear fashion no matter what the page layout. This is easier for blind people, who can't see the visual aspects anyway. But for attracting people to my blog, I realize the visual aspect is important and it needs to look interesting, stand out--not just another blog, if you know what I mean.
Don't be stressed out about having to answer this email immediately. I am sure when things calm down you will respond. Take it easy and take care.
Much of my blogging success, if not most of it, is due to your encouragement. I appreciate your comments on this and anything else you have to say. Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
Thank you very much for your condolences.
Yes, you are right. The laws are very similar. In Islam, the deceased has to be buried within 24 hours. Before that there is a ritual bathing, afterwhich s/he is dressed (those who have gone on the Hajj or on the Umrah - the short pilgrimage - are dressed in their white Hajj/Umrah clothing), then covered with a long piece of white cloth/shroud. There is no coffin, to ensure that we become part of the earth again as quickly as possible. There is no embalming process as it would only delay the process. There are exceptions, of course - if one has died out-of-town or abroad, if a family member has to travel in order to attend the funeral (though this is rare). Flowers are strewn on the grave, but that is more Javanese (since I'm in Java) than Islam. Afterwards there are prayers in the evening for 3 or 7 consecutive days, then on day 40, day 100 and 1000 ~ again, there are influences of local practice here.
Your blog looks good! It's so much more easier to read now with the paragraphs, and I really liked what you wrote on the 3rd, about finding your niche. I'll try posting a comment on your blog and see if that works! I'll have to look at livejournal to tell you what blog looks are available so you know what your options are. I am going to have to describe to you the mood of the blog look so let me think about this carefully.
Talk to you later! I need to do some work and I'll get back to fun stuff - might even blog a bit today if I have the time!
~ Poppy
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Edited 4/4/2008 4:40 am ET by cl-libelulle
For example, there is often a tent of mourning. Jeish custom also often has that. In any event, after the burial, there is a seven-day period where the immediate family sits and friends and neighbors can visit them. Often, when there is a large family, a mourning tent it set up.
Likewise, we also bury as soon as possible, within 24 hours, and in Israel, unless the body is severely injured from, for example, gunshot wounds, or disease, the body is also laid directly into the earth and embalming is not performed. Outside Israel, it is the custom to bury within a coffin whose wood is easily able to decay, such as pine wood. On the thirtieth day, it is the custom to lay the tombstone on the grave, although some wait to do so until a year has passed. After the first year, the anniversary date of the death is marked by lighting a candle and often visiting the cemetery. Jews do not believe in cremation, which is the Hindu custom, and also consider the body as a vessel for the soul, and therefore it should not be just thrown away or turned into ashes.
Modern Jews have often adopted traditions that were not originally intended and the religious community considers these new adaptations as corrupting the real significance of the death experience.
I think a lot can be learned from how different religions approach death. In this matter, at least, Islam and Judaism are closer together in thinking and practice than either are to Christianity or Hinduism. Tziporah
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