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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
| Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am |
Hi Tziporah,
I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.
I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.
Welcome again!
(PS: I love the sound of your name!)

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Hi Tziporah,
I have to admit I am feeling pretty sad myself these days.
Hello, Karen,
It was good to hear from you so quickly. Just stopped writing in order to put a bandaid on a finger. Feeling anxious.
Going through a minor anxiety attack. Covered a second finger that had a sore on it. Started to bite a third.
Having a lot of doubts. Will people want to buy what I'm selling?
Meaining: I decided to put up a website deoted to people overcoming adversity or integrating adversity into their lives. I know a lot of people could visit it, but I want to sell things as well. Things like: individual coaching, group coaching, teleseminars, CD's. Those kinds of things.
What do you think?
I think I'm nervous about it, because today in our teleclass, in the course in which I enrolled, the trainer said that you don't want to waste a lot of time and money investing in and eveloping a product that won't SELL.
So my question is, do you think this kind of thing has selling potential?
I'm answering your message in reverse. What I meant by people who know my parents well--the reference was to one of the accountants I work with. He has known my Dad for almost forty years--knows his mindset, the way he conducts business, his point of view on finances, his personal concerns. The other person was someone who is a stockbroker and also talks to my Dad quite a lot. Last night Ihad a conference call with this accountant and one of his assistants, who helps me in the day-to-day management of the account. After some discussion, we decided this senior accountant, the one who knows my Dad well, will have a converstion with him and explain the situation. After that, he'll call me. He thinks my Dad will be concerned, anxious, and want details, but will be helpful to the best of his ability. I feel better letting this person, who knows both my father and me, handle it. He's diplomatic and also someone my father will listen to. He is also easy to talk to, which is good for me.
I'm biting a piece of cuticle now and my finger hurts slightly, the one I can't find a bandaid for. Out of bandaids I think. Somehow the pain is enjoyable in its own way. I don't know how to describe it really. And biting on that piece of skin, chewing on it, is enjoyable. Enough of that. I have got to stop doing this.
I think it also has to do with the subject you raised--my anxiety I mean. If I had no income, something I don't have yet but am very close to, and my husband had just been laidoff, I'd be freaking out, climbing the walls, going bolistic. I know this isn't what you need to hear. You need words of encouragement. But I can only tell you what I'dbe feeling and thinking. Maybe because it also has to do with this thought: if so many people are unemployed, who will buy my stuff? Yet I keep hearing from business coaches that people do buy things. I keep feeling like I have to prove myself, can't allow myself to fail. Can't allow myself to fail at any cost. Plus, myhusband keeps asking when I'm actually going to start getting business?
As far as your situation is concerned, what does your husband do? Are there any job prospects in his line of work? Can he do temporary employment like you are doing? Tziporah
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
Hi Tziporah,
I wish I could give you a real hug but I send you a cyber hug instead.
Hi Karen,
I'm feeling better today. I did a lot of work yesterday--ran two teleclasses, drafted a newsletter, talked to a former coach of mine, and had a conversation with my buddy in the course I'm taking. You're supposed to have a buddy and you call each other every week and give moral and practical support. I talked to her about my doubts and she said to try it out and see if it sells. Your advice is basically the same that high-paying business coaches say: "make your prospective buyer feel like he NEEDS and WANTS what you're selling."
I also did buy bandaids. Most of my fingershave sores on them, but the sores aren't so big. If I can leave them alone and let them heal,I'll be okay. That's the challenge. I've been at this stage before. True, the last few days have been stressful. I'm feeling better now somehow--especially after making the decissions I have and knowing the accountant will talk to my parents first before I have to. That will soften the blow.
Maybe, as you said, your husband's time off is a blessing in disguise. Time to get all those odd jobs done. Even when he goes back to work, maybe he can continue to do some freelance to bring in extra cash.
I'd be worrying and crying too, just like you, and probably even more than you.
When I started writing this part of the message, I started picking at a sore. Well, that let's me know that I'm very anxious about earning enough.
Have you gone to the temporary employment agency yet? I know it's hard working in an office where everyone knmows everyone and you come in just as a substitute. Like the substitute teacher who has to go in and teach a class. Wow--they always gave those ladies a rough time, but, to be fair, some of them were really mean!
Hopefully, you'll end up in a nice place.
Which leads me to the next item: did you see the latest ivillage offer about getting an education in psychology? I thought of you. Would this kind of thing apply to you? I think you said you wanted to do that. Right? Correct me if I'm wrong.
I want to end on a victorious note. In the erly days, I used to freak out for hours whenever I lost something. I would get totally, and I mean, totally obssessed about it. I couldn't do anything unless and until I found what I was looking for, even if it took hours, even if I drove my husband crazy, even if I went bolistic. No exaggeration in any of this.
Well, today, about thirty minutes before my husband and I had to get up, he went to turn on the air conditioner. It's turned on by a remote control device which fits into a little box on the wall by the bed. After he had turned it on, the remote device fell on the floor. He tried looking for it and couldn't find it. You might recall my husband also is blind. Well, he was getting agitated and finally I suggested he just leave it and go back to sleep. This didn't help too much, but after some more futile attempts, he capitulated. Then I got up to go to the bathroom. In the Jewish religion, when a person gets out of bed for the first time, they wash their hands in a certain ritual fashion. We have a small basin and cup by the bed that is used for this person. So, after I had performed that ritual, I went to empty out the basin, and there it was, on the floor!
I thought to myself: this is certainly a turning of the tables around, me relaxing my husband, who is usually calm about lost things. He was nervous and I was calm, a complete reverse of the usual. I guess that shows how far I've come--a therapeutic success. I also understand my husband isn't somehow becoming obssessive about lost objects--which is certainly not hisnature. It's just the stress he's under, I think.
Just wanted to share that little tidbit.
Tziporah
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
Hi Tziporah,
Congratulations on your success!
Hi Karen,
Thanks for saying I'm productive. I enjoyed that compliment.
Seems like you're also being productive.
The thing I was talking about with Ivillage is:
a notice they sent out on Wednesday00or thereabouts--two days ago--called "an ivillage special offer". Then it says something like: "get an education in psychology."
What are cattle calls?
It's also been hot. I haven't been out the entire week. Sitting under the air conditioner.
Have mixed feelings about that. Is my not going out due to my depression or just because I'm busy and it's hot? Probably a little bit of both.
Tziporah
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
Hi Tziporah,
You are welcome, you deserve the compliment.
Very hot here too. Hitting the mid-nineties every day.
I haven't been outside for more than a week. Just the thought of it makes me decide not to. Just too hot and sweaty. I admire all those people, like myt husband, who go out several times a day.
Basically living by an air conditioner.
Over the Sabbath, just lay around a lot in bed. Thoughts on many subjects. A lot of disturbing dreams with quarrels between myself and my parents. Believe it or not, Shabtai actually had one of those dreams too--where I'm quarreling with my parents!
Wow!
In the afternoon, we recitd the entire Book of Psalms together. I felt good doing that. It was soothing. That helped to lift my spirits a bit.
Today just concentrating on designing a layout for my website.
My fingers are still so-so.
Thanks for explaining what a cattle call is.
Tziporah
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
Hi Tziporah,
I went to my niece's birthday party yesterday, she turned 8.
Hi Tziporah,
It seems it is my turn to be sad.
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