Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007

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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am

Hi Tziporah,


I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.


I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.


Welcome again!


(PS: I love the sound of your name!)


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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 9:20pm

Still trying, and not getting it. This was a blank post.

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 4:36am
This is another test. Poppy and I are skyping away. What fun. Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
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Registered: 11-16-2001
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 4:59am
Hi Tziporah, I hope that you will be able to post regularly now that we've figured out how to use Webformator for this message board. When you get the email notification for this, the link for this post is the one that is next to Subject: and will be titled Re: Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007.
Talk to you later!
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Registered: 03-12-2007
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 1:57pm
Hi Everyone, Poppy, I got your email that you sent me Thursday. I pressed the link and got into the thread. I do like the feature that allows you to read the actual reply via email. That way, if you don't want to reply right away, you don't have to, and you don't have to open the actual board either. However, concerning the email you sent after our session, I couldn't find the reply place to the specific email, but I did find a place I could put my reply into. Does this mean that my reply--this message--will appear at the very end of the thread? Or, does it mean that this reply will be inserted after the message I am replying to? This message, the one I am replying to, is not the last in the thread. Just wondering. In any event, at least I can write. Karen, I have missed being able to write to you. It's been such a long time. If you have skype, let me know, and we can also set up a skype chat. I started skyping to Poppy way back, so when I had difficulties I thought of her. It's been much easier to figure out things here with a live person, versus trying to follow crazy instructions. I still miss the old--previous--msb which was much more lean in design and more fun to use. But I will try to make do with what is. Karen, the last message I read from you, was when you were talking about relocating. How is that going? Are you still moving out of state? As for me, things are less stressful than they were a month ago. My mil is now in a rehab unit. Boy, did we have to pull strings for that! But we had a very good advocate working behind the scenes. She is expected to be there for three months. She now gets speech therapy, physical therapy, and occupational therapy. It's hard to see improvements from one day to the next, but over the period of a week it's possible to see some changes. Still, it's very slow going and she understandably gets frustrated and depressed sometimes. The most frustrating part is her not being able to communicate normally. She will answer questions, but she can't initiate a conversation yet. Her right hand, which was paralyzed, is now coming back slowly. This week she was able to stand for twenty minutes. Someone doesn't have to be with her around the clock now, which also helps a lot. Still, people try to go in the morning and evenings. When I said things are less stressful now, I should have qualified that. More stressful now than before--especially moneywise. So many things to pay for in regards to Shabtai's mother: ambulance service, legal paperwork, etc., etc. My parents' visit--as I said, or think I said, in a message--which may or may not have gotten posted--this year was the best year yet. No big blow-outs! Everyone remained respectful to each other, even humorous. They were here for a week and a half and left this last Sunday night. Still, there were the usual criticisms. I found myself biting my cuticles a lot, and my mother even commented on my "bloody fingers". Maybe it's like Chris (why140) would say, when she was posting here--it's not the best coping mechanism, but sometimes that's all we can do. I did feel disappointed in myself that I was reverting to that si behavior, but I didn't even try not to do it. It feels so good to write here again, to tell everybody about the things I can't say elsewhere. . Now that they have left, I have been trying to get back into a rhythm--which isn't easy. It's been so long since I've had structure-I haven't had it since Sept., with the holidays, Shabtai's mother's stroke, and the visit of my parents. And my t. says I need structure. All of that is behind me now, and I need to get back into structure. I've been able to manage on one therapy session per week. Can't afford two anymore. It's hard, because I often get depressed in between them and seem to slip backwards. Today my t. asked me how I can "remind" myself of the things we talk about in session. After a session, I usually feel better. Then, after a day or two, get pessimistic and depressed again. Right now, feeling good, since I just finished a session about an hour ago. It takes a few days for the negative mindset to return and then I lose it. Lose the momentum. Shabtai says I have to have more confidence in myself, to believe I can really do this business thing. At least I can now tell you that the big technical issues which were really stukping us are mostly solved. So that is good news. The tech support team with the company that's building the website did a great job in persevering to find the problems and fix them. Karen, I'm glad to see there are a lot of interesting new threads up. Probably a good thing I was away for awhile, so others could have a chance to share. I want to read all these threads. I'm sure they will give me added support. I also hope my old thread will be retrievable in its entirety. Thanks to everybody who offered suggestions and who have helped me in resolving the technical challenges of the new layout on this board. Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
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Registered: 08-07-2007
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 4:41pm
Welcome back Tziporah! :)

I wanted to let you know that Karen is in the process of moving and her internet connection has been a bit spotty. So, if she doesn't reply for a day or two, you'll know she's not ignoring you.

I'm glad that the visit with your parents went so well and that your mother-in-law is improving.

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Thu, 10-28-2010 - 10:28pm

Hi Tziporah!!!!!!!

Was that enough exclamation points to prove I really missed you?

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Thu, 10-28-2010 - 11:31pm
Hi Karen, with a PS for Amy, Yes--enough exclamations! I got the message. You're glad I'm back. So am I! Well, the last time we talked it was Minnesota. I'm assuming that fell through. I hope this one in Atlanta works. Is it the same one your husband was interviewing for before? Just wanted to clarify one point about my mil. Nobody was expecting me or anyone else to be there 24/7. Just that in the first few weeks it was necessary. If anything, that expectation occurred when Shabtai was in the hospital. I really handled all of those times almost single-handedly. You are right about my parents' visit. This one was much better than the previous ones. You're right that the difference is apparent from my descriptions in my thread. Question: how can I see my entire thread? I understand from your post, and from one by Amy, your access to the internet is limited. Don't worry about it. I know you'll reply when you can, and besides, perhaps it's more important for me to write, to sort things out, to work things through, than to have you reply to everything. Don't take this to mean that your responses aren't important. They are. But, like a good therapist, a lot of the process is in the listening and not jumping in with a response too fast. The trick is to know what to say and when to say it. Be in touch. Tziporah PS. Amy, thanks for your thoughtful post.
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
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Registered: 12-27-1999
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 1:00am

Hi again, Tziporah, here is the link to the beginning of this thread http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/A-Safe-Place-to-Share/Belated-Welcome-Shavtay2007/td-p/5011416

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 12:12am
Hello, Karen, Poppy, and everybody else, It's been a challenging time. I've wanted to write, but kept postponing it. I actually did try once, but couldn't get the msb to work. I still like the old msb better. Anyway, things are looking up. My mil, who had her stroke in mid-Sept., can now stand up and take a few steps. She is starting to talk slowly. She is able to understand everything--that'[s a good sign. She will be released from the rehab center in Jan. I find it hard sometimes to visit--remembering the way she used to be. It's depressing. Still, I met a stroke victim who completely recovered and have also read about another person who had a stroke and completely recovered. she wrote a book about it. amazing. It's called: My Stroke of Insight, by Jill Bolte Taylor. You've got to see her website. mystrokeofinsight.com she couldn't walk, talk, etc., and she has a video there where she talks about what happened. Awesome. I finally have my website and newsletter up. Anyone who wants can see my website and through my website subscribe to my newsletter--which comes out every other week. The name of my website is: istillhavemylove.com, (i still have my life),and the name of my newsletter is: makeyourwayforward (make your way forward). Or, send me an email if you want me to add you to my newsletter email list. I'm happy with the way the website and newsletter have turned out. I took a professional webwizzard to help me design it. The elevator is almost done. Everything has been prepared. Just waiting for the elevator itself to arrive before doing the final work. Actually, writing this now, it sounds like all is well. So, BIG QUESTION, why do I often feel depressed and why have I started ripping up my fingers really bad again over the last few weeks? I'm still plagued with doubts if I can really earn money through this business. Still see my money dwindling. Still trying to replace the negative thoughts with more self-affirming positive ones. Still trying to do the things my therapist suggests. It still feels like so much work, such a struggle. Worried about my weight--big belly, stomach big. Computer difficulties almost every week. That's why, after another week of bloody fingers, I decided I MUST start writing here again. I know it's Christmas time and everybody is probably super-busy. So I'm not expecting an instant response. Maybe I needed to be away from the board for awhile to realize just how much I still need your support. For all who celebrate it, have a happy Christmas and a prosperous and healthy New Year. Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 10:16am

Happy Hanakah!

It is treat to see you back here.

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