Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
| Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am |
Hi Tziporah,
I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.
I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.
Welcome again!
(PS: I love the sound of your name!)

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i will check out your blog. is ivillage a good place for blogging about my coaching training, (i'm asking this, because i saw that it says the blogsite is mostly for talking about dating and motherhood--so would my thing fit in hereh), or should i try another site. the two blogging sites i've tried so far, are: wordpress.com and livejournal.com. i actually have written on both of them, but viewing the stuff i've written is hard for me to do for some reason. all i really want is a blog that works. it's really for the homework, not that i think i'm really into blogging per se. i'm not even sure if there's a real difference between a message board, like this one, and blogging. to me, they seem very similar. what is the difference, do you think? Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
I get an email notification in my inbox, and it was one of the first things I saw after I'd logged on. Please I'm ahead of you by a few hours ;-)
Whether iConnect is a good place for you to blog depends on you. The good thing is that iVillage is a safe, well-lit place. I certainly don't blog about dating or motherhood!
A message board for me is a place where I can talk about certain experiences or thoughts, and where I can get feed back from a group of people with whom I have commonalities. In a message board, we're all members, we all have an equal say and we all contribute. We can all post and reply (though Amanda and I have moderating duties).
On a blog, the blog owner is the sole person who controls how the blog looks and feels, and what is written there. Thoughts are his/her own. People can reply and post comments, but the main pieces are the blog owner's. The blog, for me, a place where I can write short pieces or essays about a particular topic. It might reach a wider audience than usual. I've got a friend who blogs about a lot of things business and political within South East Asia, more particularly Indonesia, Malaysia and Singapore. He attracts people who are interested in these matters. Another one blogs about IT, and the blog serves as a compliment to his tech columns. A couple of friend blog about their lives. They don't blog frequently, but when they do, these are beautifully polished pieces (both are writers in one of their lives, though one is has made the plunge to full-time writing).
It does no harm to try iConnect to see whether you like it or not, especially since it's free! If you don't like it, you don't like it :-)
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How about coping mechanisms such as:
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You are so right - you don't have to do it NOW. It's an option in life that you have, but you don't have to do it or take it if you don't **need** it right now.
You are going to be a great coach, Tziporah! Go for it. If you want a guinea pig, you can always use me rofl rofl rofl...
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You got it right on the head.
Don't do something to bring you down. And yes you can always go back to it later, maybe once your coaching business is up and running and not while you are anxious about starting and trying to get on your own two feet. But don't worry *pat on the shoulder* I have faith in you!
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i will take you up on your offer. guinea pigs make me think of medical experiments. coaching is not an experiment, but a way of getting the most out of one's life. catually, i think you could make a very good coach yourself, Poppy, by noting the kinds of questions you've asked me and others. they have the feel of questions that a coach would ask. the same type of phrasing: what if you could...? what about...? have you thought of...? etc.
it's not necessary to answer all the questions in writing, although that would probably make the exercise more potent. just being asked a question sometimes can be enough to trigger the mind.
anyway, if you're still interested, i'm ready. however, you have to figure out on what you want me to coach you.
this is also a general call for anyone who would like to be coached. i work in life coaching, which deals with issues such as: life-work balance, home management, time management, setting and meeting goals, fulfillment, etc. so far, i've worked with women who have mental health issues and need assistance in staying on track, women students, and some religious-oriented coaching.
anyone interested can write me at: shavtay@013.net. anyone who wants to see what coaching is like, can look up the ivvillage message board: careers and coaching. (i think that's the name of it). it's moderator is a very competent coach who i have talked to on several occasions. also, from time to time, i have seen offers for life-coaching related issues on the home page.
please note: at this time i am not certified. i am still in the process of becoming certified and am looking for interested women to coach as part of my practicum. this may be oky for some, while others would prefer someone who already has certification. although i am still in that process, i have been working with women for about ten years, so i do have experience. it's the formal training i am working on now.
Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
Tziporah,
What's keeping you from having that faith in yourself? What in your teaching can you use to combat that anxiety? I hope that the practice you get will boost your self confidence.
i think it has to do partly with my tendency to feel anxious about anything new. whatever it is, till i'm doing it, till i've got the hang of it, i have doubts. it's also that i tend to remember the failures--really play them up, and downplay the successes, of which there have been many--which my therapist is fond of reminding me. i also have a lot riding on this and i don't want to be a flop. it's not so much the coaching itself, although i hae enoughdoubts about that. it's the question of whether i would be more suited to a different kind of counseling--therapist, mentor, consultant. without going into it, there are subtle differences.
i guess that's mostly it. plus, starting my own business and generating enough money to make it profitable. i don't want to be a millionnaire--but i do want to earn a good salary so that i can do some of the things i can't afford now.
the good thing about this coaching school is that there is a lot of dialogue among the students and between the students and trainers. i have talked about this issue with one of the trainers and his counsel has been helpful. still, i have the anxious feelings. everyone says the main thing is to practice a lot and i am still at the beginning, after all.
i have been making more contacts and that has certainly helped.
the other big thing on my plate right now is the psychotherapy. the last period of ongoing therapy since my last break in April has been pretty intense. mostly he just listens and makes one or two comments per session, which is okay. but last Monday was a killer. he started drilling as soon as the session started and he kept it up the whole hour. just more and more probing questions. no let-up. at least with the dentist you get the novacaine and then he can drill away and you don't feel it. but this kind of pain is different. anyone who's been in therapy will know what i mean. there's know painkiller and once they get on a roll--forget it--they never let up. well, today, before he said good-bye for his break, he said i was being "very resistant" to the particular issue under discussion. i readily admitted it was painful and he said, "well, i can't force you, but it would be worthwhile to explore that pain."--which is their way of saying: when we get back to working, get ready to do that. so prepare yourself for it.
it's been quite a long time since i've felt this intense pain. i know, at this advanced stage, i'm not there to just tell stories. i'm there to work. so, my question is: how to deal with the pain sensasion? he asks, "why the pain?" and i don't know why. i know that talking through it will make it better--avoiding it won't make it go away. it's just so hard! help!
Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
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