Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007

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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am

Hi Tziporah,


I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.


I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.


Welcome again!


(PS: I love the sound of your name!)


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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 12:55pm
Hello, Karen, Poppy, and everybody, Great news. A new book came out and I'm featured in it. It's called the Gratitude Book Project, by Donna Kozik. It's a long story, so I'll save it for another time. But you can get it through Amazon and other booksellers. My entry appears on the page dated July 13. Now, to Karen's email: Hello, Karen, I actually am starting to get the hang of this msb again. I tried the feature that lets you reply from your email without having to go and open the board. very convenient. One thing I miss is that it was a lot easier before to see everybody's else's messages at a glance. At least with the way my msb is set up right now, that's a little harder. Anyway, to your message. I am not a cat lover, and I would definitely side with your mom--especially after she started leaking. And the fact that she also bites isn't appealing either. What I really don't like is their odor. In any event, I have a friend who has birds in her house--finches, parrots, and who-knows-what-else. they also give off an odor and it got me so neauseated I stopped going up there. truth be told, i do not enjoy houses where there is the odor of smokers either, so my reactions are not about cats per se, but about unpleasant smells. I know a lot of people who are quite devoted to their pets, and I am aware of the fact that pets can give a lot of emotional support. so, more credit to your mom for putting up with your cats. I can only imagine how hard the holidays will be without your dh. sometimes we have to make sacrifices like that. i'm sure it's also hard for him. You say you're planning to stick it out until May, until your son's graduation, which does seem to be the sensible thing to do. then you say, you don't think you'll last. this is the kind of situation that calls for the classic technique of: one day at a time. using a Biblical example to illustrate: it says in Genesis that Jacob had to work for Rachel by tending the flocks of his future father-in-law for seven years before he could marry her. What anguish! but the Scriptures say that it was but a few days in his eyes. how so?--especially when being forced to postpone a marriaged to one's beloved for so long is akin to emotional torture? the answer, according to some commentators, is that he didn't think of the waiting period in terms of seven long years, but rather in terms of a few days. every morning he thought to himself: i can manage waiting for one more day. that's why it says that the waiting period was like days to him. if he had thought of it in terms of years it would have been just too overwhelming and impossible for him to hold out. so, May, thank goodness, is not seven years, but it's the same kind of feeling. so, take this example and apply the principle of one day at a time. that way you will survive emotionally. how did you get involved in thinking about working for 911? i asked you that last time. anyway,about the weather in your part of the world. sounds like what we've experienced here. tremendously hot until about two weeks ago. then, freezing temperatures and a downpour for three days straight. now getting hot again. by hot, i mean its in the high eighties and more. not exactly winter weather. one more question about the msb before i sign off. what does the link: "turn suggestions on. turn suggestions off" mean? Enjoy Christmas as much as you can. Tziporah
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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 2:22pm

Hi Tziporah!

The 911 thing came about mostly because my aunt applied and was rejected because she can't type.

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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 11:43pm
Hi Karen, I've had a productive week, working steadily on my websites, having good teleclasses, moving forward in all respects. Still, have been feeling depressed. Just as my hair was growing in, I cut it real short again. An urge I couldn't resist. Did that on Monday or Tuesday, I think. most o My cuticles are a bloody mess. It's been like that for almost two weeks now. I can't seem to resist it. Over the past few days, when really anxious, have chewed on a piece of skin I bit off for about ten minutes and enjoyed the sensation. Have done that several times. Tonight--it's Thursday morning here now--I have therapy again. I trick myself into thinking I can get along without it. After all, I had Christmas week off. I should know better. After all, my bloody fingers tell the real story. If I was really in good shape I wouldn't be doing this. Right? And the worst part is, I can't even figure out why. I know what's going to happen. He'll start the session like he always does, "How are you?" the standard ritual we go through, the standard opening. and I'll tell him I'm biting my cuticles real bad, and he'll say, "what thoughts are triggering it?" and I'll draw a blank. Then the "fun" begins and I "sweat".--meaning, he starts probing. I just know I'm doing it, but can't seem to connect it to anything. Plus, I have to go to my sister-in-law's tomorrow for Sabbath night dinner--not that I have to go, but we accepted this invitation a week ago and it would be hard to get out of it. and I also have to give a class Saturday afternoon--very embarrassing. Everybody will see myy messed up fingers. I wish they could just miraculously turn into smooth healed clean hands. The actual dinner and class aren't problematical. I don't mind not cooking this week and my class material is basically prepared. Help! P.S. The "turn suggestions off"--"turn suggestions on" links appear at the beginning of the long list of msb options. At least that's how it is on my page--but then, my page is represented in a vertical format and doesn't really reflect the actual layout of the webpage as it appears on the screen. I was just curious what those links meant, but it isn't really crucial to know, if you don't know. Karen, How did Christmas go being without your husband? How is it going with you in general? Tziporah
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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 10:44pm

Hi Tziporah!

I turned in your question for a response and we will see.

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Mon, 01-03-2011 - 10:54am
It's so good to "see" you here Tziporah, we've all missed you!

I'm glad to hear that your MIL is doing so well, she's come a long way since her stroke! You've been keeping busy too I see with your website, and things.

Now, off to read your other posts. ;)

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Mon, 01-03-2011 - 10:58am
How cool about being featured in the book. Congratulations!

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Tue, 01-04-2011 - 6:17am
Hello, Amy, Your right--it was really cool to be featured in that book. Yesterday it came in the mail. I opened it and just held it. Nothing like a new book--soft cover, pages neat without wrinkles and tears, and my entry in it. I turned to it and read it. It was really funny--strange, the first time I read what I had written. It sounded very stark to me and I even wondered if they had changed the order of my paragraphs. They hadn't, but it took a minute for me to remember that. Then I read it a second and third time and the entry started to grow on me. A very strange sensation. My parents saw what I had written and they liked it a lot. Tziporah
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Registered: 08-07-2007
Tue, 01-04-2011 - 9:11am
That is really neat! I can imagine how odd it would be to see your own words bound in print like that. I'm glad your parents liked it as well, that must bring some good feelings of validation. :)

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Wed, 01-05-2011 - 12:36pm

Hi Tziporah,

I was reading what you said about reading your words in print for the first time.

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Wed, 01-05-2011 - 1:36pm
Hello, Amy and Karen, Thanks for the comments related to my seeing my entry in print. It was definitely a strange sensation. Karen--if you still have that poem, I'd enjoy reading it. Well, what can I say? My fingers are a real mess. Compared to last week, maybe a little better, but not much. Still wrecking them every day. We talked about it in therapy. Remember, I had a week off over the Christmas break, but last Thursday, right before New Year's, I had another session. Thank goodness he didn't ask directly what I was thinking and why I couldn't think of anything. but that didn't stop him from exploring or pursuing the matter. eventually, it came down to my inability to make decisions, the back-and-forth kind of thinking I engage in, without really doing anything, not really resolving the conflicts. He gave me some challenges to do. most of them I didn't carry out. just couldn't do it. once i'm moving, it's okay. but it's the getting started that's really hard. i've been having a dstressful week. i can't seem to manipulate the website in the way i want and my web designer is on vacation till Monday. yesterday i was in a really bad mood. today i got it to work somewhat, so i felt better. still... a lot of ruining my cuticles. the shame and the embarrassment i had to go through over last Sabbath when i had to be in public. very humiliating. finally this morning i talked about my frustrations with a good friend of mine on the phone. she was so supportive and understanding. it helped. but i have therapy again tomorrow. how many "but"s are in this post? laugh. Karen, one question. you say you are trying to hold it in and keep from crying and crying. i have found that sometimes it's just better to have a really good cry. the release! Tziporah
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