Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007

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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am

Hi Tziporah,


I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.


I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.


Welcome again!


(PS: I love the sound of your name!)


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Thu, 01-06-2011 - 7:26pm

To all reading.

My son went to see the disciplinarian at his school and filled out a formal complaint and within the hour it was handled.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 9:25am
Woohoo! Sounds like you have a kid with a great head on his shoulders!

I'm really glad that the school is taking this seriuosly and hope that things are a lot smoother for him now.

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Fri, 01-07-2011 - 3:55pm

Amy, I do have a kid with a great head on his shoulders.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 4:19pm
I know that feeling, but I think that learning to stand up for yourself comes with maturity and self-confidence that comes with age. He'll get there.

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Sat, 01-08-2011 - 11:55pm
Hello, Karen, I'm so glad things have worked out. I'm glad your son is at a zero-tolerance school. It still blows my mind about this incident I wrote you about. Were all these people blind or something? It just boggles the mind. (I'm referring to the incident where this 15-year-old took his life.) Such a waist. But I've heard of other incidents like that, so I guess it's not uncommon as one would like to think. Anyway, what I really wanted to say is: I only sounded off I like that because I care about you and only want the best for you. I was probably also agitated after the report of this incident and it must have come out unconsciously in my post. I know you're a great mom. I wish i had communicatio9n with my parents in the way you do with your son. I don't, as you know. Well, things haven't been going so great. An understatement. Last night I finally let it all out with my husband--out of frustration. I hadn't done much on Saturday, except lie in bed. It was cold and rainy out, a good enough reason I guess. But it was more than that. Just soooo tired. No matter how much I slept, I just kept on sleeping. The depression. I had so many crazy dreams. Dreams about therapy, my parents, a lot of controversial subjects. I guess you could say it's my unconscious working through all of it. And, of course, I kept biting my cuticles and making them bleed. Well, I think I wrote about this before--a new problem with my website. I can't get into one of the links--a very important one, in fact, the one where you can edit subpages you've already written. I wanted to do that. All last week I kept trying to figure it out and couldn't. I tried to write a support email, but got locked out of that because they have this security code you have to write in. I couldn't hear the audio version. Just kept getting angry over and over again. Just kept obsessing about it, kept thinking if I tried working on it long enough I'd finally figure the quirk out by myself. The arrogance. My arrogance. Well, you know the story, I couldn't do it. So, last night, another web tech guy came to try his hand at it. He lives in our building--very convenient. He said, like the web tech guys before him who I consulted, that it's a problem with the website itself, not with me. Finally, my tech support person, who I needed so much, was on vacation last week. I so much wanted to move forward on my own, to show him I could do that. In the end, I have done nothing. Well, in any event, after yet another night of anger and frustration and hurt I finally told Shabtai: "I'm not a business person. I'm not going to make money for us. It's all hanging on my performance, on me, and I can't do it." It had started with the usual: "I was such an idiot for taking up coaching, such an idiot for starting this website. I must have been crazy the day I started doing these things." I don't even know how I chose my niche. WWell, he said the very same things my therapist said/says: take it in proportion. it's only the website that's down, not everything. what about all my successes? the fact I'm giving teleclasses, the fact i have an entry in this gratitude book? Then Shabtai said, "what about the beginning when you couldn't master the computer at all? look where you are now?" it just fels like every time I try to move forward, I get bumped up against a wall, and I view that wall as a total impass--like everything hinges on it. I've decided I don't know how to get a business up and running. Last session, my t. said I'm "lost in my thoughts." that is probably one of the truest things he's ever said about me. it fit so exactly. and I thought yesterday, "not just lost inmy thoughts, but totally lost". just wandering around without direction. it's like this website building is consuming all of my time, especially because of the technology involved. and it's not supposed to be like that. it's supposed to be something you do as part of an overall business plan, not the only thing you do. Shabtai and my t., both say, I just forget the successes, overlook them. It's like as soon as I have a success, I have to start producing the next success. Can't stop to enjoy it. It's all so true. and I don't know how to change it. or, rather, I do know, I have to change my whole entire thought pattern, but just can't seem to do it. Tziporah
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Sun, 01-09-2011 - 12:04am
Hello, Amy, You're right about everything in your message. I agree with you, as usual. Laugh. The thing about the work--well, you're right. It seems harder than it really is. Usually that's the case. Just another version of the classic anticipatory anxiety, which I also have, inaddition to ocd and depression. Right now, going through a bad case of ocd and depression. I don't think the meds help, but just take them because I'm afraid if I don't, it'll be worse. I'm not sure therapy helps either, but I'm afraid to stop that as well. I'm getting to the point where I think nothing will help,until I help myself, which may be a good thing in the long run. But I guesss I need these safeguards. Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
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Thu, 01-13-2011 - 6:07am

Amy, I'm sure you are right but I just wish I could kick him in the butt and jump start it.

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Thu, 01-13-2011 - 6:22am

Hi Tziporah,

I don't even know where to begin with your last entry.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Thu, 01-13-2011 - 10:49am
Oh, I know it! I have a 13 year old I'd like to do the same thing with. ;)

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Fri, 01-14-2011 - 6:45pm

Kids, what can you do with them?

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