Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007

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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am

Hi Tziporah,


I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.


I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.


Welcome again!


(PS: I love the sound of your name!)


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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 1:29pm
Hi Karen and Amy, Karen--I'm really glad things worked out for your son. Seems like he got a great deal out of the whole thing--first getting out of that unpleasant obnoxious class, and second--getting into the college cal. course, which will definitely be valuable for him. a great example of the old saying: "a blessing in disguise." Amy--I received your messages, but couldn't really figure out the context and what you were talking about. I imagine it had to do with the discussion about kids and bullying, but couldn't figure out more than that, which is why I didn't respond. This week on the BBC there is a documentary about cyberbullying. The background notes say something like: "Now kids don't only have to contend with bullying on the playground, but also on the computer." If you want to see it, type in: bbcworldservice.com Go to the program: "Assignment" and you will see it listed there. About me: I'm still fighting the impulse not to bite my cuticles. Sometimes it's better than others. Sometimes I can trace the thoughts that lead up to the action, sometimes not. That is what my therapist says I have to do. In an ideal world, I should be able to challenge the thought that's triggered the action and stop myself before I've actually wrecked the cuticles. I am not there yet. That is still very hard for me. Most times, I just give into the impulse and feel terrible--disgusted withmyself--afterwards. Then, sometimes, I may be able to figure out the underlying thought. Like this morning, for example. I was scheduled to have a meeting with my web specialist. There I was in bed, a few hours before the meeting, thinking about it, doubting yet again whether my website content will really sell--which, of course, is the ultimate point of the exercise--to generate income. Action: started biting a finger that wasn't messed up, and within a minute or two, messed up one side of it. Eventually, I did have the alternative thought: you're working through this program of designing the website. If it really couldn't sell, would the web specialist keep pursuing it with you? Well, maybe he would--even if there is no potential in it. I'm not sure. Plus, you'll get to the point where you have to check out monetizing options--how to draw in income--and then you'll see if it goes or not. Those thoughts were after the fact--after I had messed up my finger. I'm really trying to work on the website more consistently and move forward with it. Despite the doubts. But my therapist would say I have doubts about everything. laugh. Tziporah
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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 8:56am

Hi Tziporah,

You have no doubt about doubt.

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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 9:40am
Get back attitude, boy is that right! LOL

I'm glad your son's situation is all cleared up and he's now in the class he really wanted to take. :)

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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 9:42am
Tziporah, don't worry about not responding, those messages were directed more toward Karen and her son's situation.

It sounds like you're doing better about not biting, though I know that's hard. Did I tell you I tend to bite my lip? It getes dried out/chapped and then I just can't seem to help myself. Once it heals I'm fine, but when it's chapped, I just go at it. Terrible. :(

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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 1:20am
Hi Amy, I figured it was mostly for Karen. Glad things are better for her son. The lip-biting. Maybe you did tell me. sounds familiar. I don't do that too much, but I know what you mean. If there is a sore somewhere, biting it, or picking at it--it's just "waiting" to be bitten or picked at, so to speak. Just yesterday I discovered I have a cyst on my left eyelid. I know it's a cyst, because I had one when I had my eye surgeries. The eye surgeries were for blocked tear ducts, but when I asked the surgeon what this "thing" was on my eyelid, he said it was a cyst. since he was operating on me anyway, he went ahead and removed it. now that same kind of "thing" is back again. connection to your lip-biting--i just keep touching it. it's so annoying. not dangerous. probably should get it removed. not a big deal, except money-wise. i'll have to talk to Shabtai about it.
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 1:34am
Hello, Karen, Doubt about doubt. "you're an expert at it." Just what my therapist says. "you're an expert at.... "putting yourself down. "doubting. "getting stuck in negative thinking." I had to laugh. When he says it, I hate it. When you say it I laugh. I guess because it's almost owrd-for-word what the t. says. I think the school's treatment of the kids who bullied your son is a good method. The humiliation is the punishment. It's much better than just suspending them--which is what they would have done when I was in school in the sixties. As for "years of therapy and it still doesn't help"--well, that's another thing my t. will often "remind" me of. He'll say something like: "we've been talking about this issues for years." I feel like saying, "I know that. but I still don't get it, or still can't do it." Why am I so dense? stupid? dumb? or probably, just somehow unable to put into practice the very thing that would bring me greatest healing and benefit me the most? I think that's the answer with your son making things that are easy so complicated--even after years of therapy it still doesn't click. I guess there are some mental blocks. anyone who's been in therapy will know exactly what I'm talking about. Tziporah
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 9:32am
Yuck, cysts on eyelids can NOT be comfortable. I get styes on the inside of my eyelids sometimes and those can be extremely irritating. My eye doctor says it's likely that I'm developing an allergy to my contact lenses. Nice.

The lip thing... that's exactly it. If it's dry & flaky, I'm going to bite at it. It's like I can't help it, I don't even know I'm doing it most of the time until I hurt myself.

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Sun, 01-23-2011 - 4:45am
Hello, Amy, Picked at the thing so much that it finally just fell off. That's okay with me. Saved me a trip to the doc. It probably will come back, which means eventually I wwill have to get it surgically removed. In the meantime, not bothered by it. That flakiness you mentioned--just the kind of thing that happens to my skin, which is often very dry. Ceertainly my my cuticles, which I pick, and on my heels--which I pick at only occasionally. It's like all things are saying, calling out to us, "Haha, pick me! see if you can't!" they're smarter than we are. As for me, feeling quite depressed right now. Tziporah
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Registered: 08-07-2007
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 10:41am
LOL, well.... at least you don't have to worry about the cyst for now.

Why do you think you're feeling depressed at the moment?

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Mon, 01-24-2011 - 12:47pm

Hi Tziporah,

I'm glad I was finally able to load this thread.

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