Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007

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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am

Hi Tziporah,


I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.


I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.


Welcome again!


(PS: I love the sound of your name!)


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Tue, 05-10-2011 - 7:31am

Hi Tziporah,

I have difficulty myself when it comes to changing my diet.

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Tue, 05-10-2011 - 10:44pm
Hi Karen, To be honest, I'd rather be underweight than overweight. I just hate how my stomach feels like its bulging.. It's not exactly at that point yet, but I feel the difference. I'm also not a big meat eater. I like grazing on nuts and dried fruit a lot--things the dietician said I have to cut down on. Another reason to hate myself--the bulging weight. I'm at 75 kilos, which is about 150 pounds, my highest weight ever. While I wrote this last sentence, I bit my cuticles again and chewed on the skin. It was cathartic, but to be honest, it's been getting worse again. Hasn't been this bad in quite a long time. Yesterday I went to an all-day Torah seminar that was held in the neighborhood. Shabtai was there , too. It was quite good and I was very stimulated. Still, I kept fiddling with my fingers and trying to hide them, which, of course, is virtually impossible to do. Feeling very ashamed and embarrassed about it. A big congrads for reaching this milestone--your son's graduation from high school. When is the graduation ceremony? I thought schools didn't end until mid-June. How is it his ends earlier? Unless, that's a private school. Or maybe things have changed since I was in school in the U.S. What are his plans? I guess he's going to be going to Illinios with you, right? That will be a big change for him, I'm sure. As for the elevator, it's really almost all done--a lot of it is in place. The electric company has to come and check some things before they can continue. Getting them to come is a real pain. They say they'll come but they don't say when. Then they show up unannounced. Shabtai and I agreed that if they don't give a definitive answer today we're going to go to their local office. I don't want the elevator crew to move onto another job and keep us stranded. It should be a simple thing, working every day, but there have been on-again, off-again shifts. First, it was Passover, then the electric company, then a long vacation week end the company gave their workers, then a relative of one of the workers passed away and they had to find a replacement, then Israel Independence Day, and today it's getting ahold of the electric company. All the reasons are quite legitimate, but what should have been a quick job is turning into a long haul. After the elevator is done, it will also need to be declaired safe by the engineer overseeing the project, his report will have to be validated by the district office responsible for such things, and then, at long last, we'll get our deposit money, which was given as collateral, back. Then it will be fun time--cleaning out the room where the door opens into. What a mess! Should I add I started biting my cuticles again while writing this? Oh, did I tell you my maid is pregnant and is going to be giving birth just about the time my parents are due for their yearly visit? At least I found a replacement. I hope she's okay, because you know how critical my parents are when it comes to house cleanliness. Tziporah
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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 10:43pm
Hi Everybody, Well, yesterday I started doing some exercises again. The first time in a very long time--since mid-April. I don't know why I was motivated to do it, just felt like I needed to do it. I'm trying to remind myself what my t. said--not to look at it as a lifelong commitment, but rather one-day-at-a-time. In the evening, I looked up a yoga routine and might do that today. I will do the exercises again. Now, as I think about it, I do remember why I started. I was starting to have back pain again. I also went out yesterday. Went to my mil's for her speech therapy. very depressing, but mostly went because I wanted an excuse to get out of the house and it was a nice day outside--sun shining, pleasant temperatures. Still biting my nails. but also starting to want them to heal. maybe the new meds are starting to take effect. Tziporah
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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 10:49pm

Hi Tziporah!

Sorry to hear about your fingers.

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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 10:57pm

Hi Tziporah!

It looks like we posted at about the same time.

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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 4:09pm
Hi Karen, I got both of your messages, so I'll answer both at once. I didn't know that in the South they start school earlier. But it makes perfect sense, especially with the very hot summers. Up North, the public schools start earlier and end later than the private ones. At least that's how I remember it. I'm really sorry about the house, and I definitely can relate to your anxiety and mistrust with your dh. I'd go crazy--I'd have to insist on personally seeing it. Perhaps the real estate agent can send you a video or pictures of what it looks like before you commit. yoga--it's an on-again off-again kind of thing. Sometimes I can get into the mood where I really want to do it, and then after a few months it wanes. It seems to come and go in yearly cycles. Now I'm in a real yoga mood. I wanted to do it today but just didn't get around to it. Since I've done most of the Sabbath cooking this evening, I will have time tomorrow and I'm looking forward to that. Fingers still a mess. Had a good therapy session today. good--meaning, got insight into things. wasn't easy, but worthwhile. You mentioned Poppy pushing you to do yoga. sounds like her. I miss her a lot. anyway, my therapist and psych.doc emailed each other, so at least I know they are communicating. On Sunday, Shabtai said he'll go to the office of the electric co. if things are not straightened out by then. Very frustrating. typical red tape. Everyone thinks everyone else is taking care of it. Tziporah
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Fri, 05-13-2011 - 7:26am

Hi Tziporah,

I said something to my son when we were traveling and you talking about the electric company thinking somebody else is working on it comment reminded

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Sat, 05-14-2011 - 11:45pm

Hi Tziporah,

I had to come and get something off my mind.

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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 3:43am
Hi Karen, Oh, does this sound familiar. A great study in what is called psychodynamics. You don't think I have the same goings-on with my parents? Of course I do, which is one reason I live on the other side of the world. When Shabtai and I were in the U.S. waiting for his transplant, my mom used to call every morning 8am sharp. I know she was concerned;worried, but not that much happens in 24 hours--usually. Well, I couldn't address her directly, so for a couple of days I would just let the phone ring. let her think I was out. after that this routine stopped. There is also the thing called passive-aggressive behavior. My mother would want something, but because I'd be mad at her, I'd make excuses not to do what she wanted. My perspective? well, both of you were feeling lousy, and probably both of you will rejoice when it's time for you to leave. and, of course, your mom will also hate to admit that she actually needed you a bit and will miss you when you're gone. at least you got your son with you to soften the atmosphere. keep in mind you're on the home stretch. it's only a few weeks now. as to your previous email, which I read last night, I had such a good laugh. honestly, all husbands have quirks, but then, i guess, we do too. only a woman could relate to what you wrote. i love my dh too, but he also has his little quirks. he loves to buy in bulk, and he'll sometimes do that even when we still have enough of something in the house. so, now I'll say: "don't buy such-and-such until I tell you." that seems to work. one good thing, though, he doesn't mind taking out the garbage. i don't think I have done that in years. Shabtai is really a sensitive guy and truly feels bad if he senses his behavior annoys me. recently, he was joking around in a way I didn't like and he apologized. he's very good like that. I do get on his nerves. a few weeks ago when I was stressed out, he said, "i can't take it any more." for him to say that, he's really gotten to his limit. or, sometimes he'll say, "i'm going to talk to your therapist about what you're doing." of course he doesn't, but it's a sign that i've gone overboard. of course, in these cases, he's really correct. i have gone overboard. Sabbath cooking. well, it's a mix of tradition and cooking whatever you want. some families always cook the same traditional meal, while others don't. you're supposed to have three meals on the Sabbath: one Friday night, one Saturday morning, and one Saturday afternoon. plus a fourth meal Saturday night after the Sabbath ends. and it also depends on the part of the world you come from. Eastern European Jews have the following Sabbath meals. Friday night starts with fish, then chicken soup with various things added to it (such as noodles, rice, soup nuts and the like), meat, side dishes, and dessert. Saturday morning they usually start with fish, chopped liver, a potatoe or noodle pudding, and what is called cholent--a sort of stew which contains meat, barley, beans, hard-boiled eggs, and potatoes.the third meal in the afternoon is usually light-fish and salads. and the Saturday night meal is also light--cake and such, although some people do make a more elaborate meal. As for Jews of Spanish and African descent, Friday night meal is more or less like what I described above. on Saturday morning, some follow the same pattern as described above, but without the chopped liver. the third and fourth meals are light, as described above. Others, especially those from the Medditerranean region, have a dairy meal instead. this is the custom in my husband's house. they have various kinds of pastries, usually with fillings of cheese, potatoes or eggplant and a lot of salads. in the afternoon, they have the third meal as a meat meal. Depending on whether we have guests or not, we have our own cooking routines. if we are having guests, I follow the Eastern European routine, because that is what the girls from seminaries are used to. but I don't make cholent. in the morning, we have the dairy meal, and in the afternoon, meat with side dishes. If Shabtai and I are eating by ourselves, we will have only one meat meal out of the three, the second meal will be the pastry kind and the third will be fish with salads. depending on how we're feeling, we'll either have the meat or fish meal in the evening or afternoon and the other one at the other time. we like to make different things each week. the one thing that every Jewish house has is the Sabbath bread, called Challah, a puffy bread which is very tasty. and of course there is wine with each meal. blessings are said over the wine, followed by a blessing over the bread. after the meal there is a Grace After Meals which is recited whenever bread has been eaten. Sabbath meals are more than an orgy of food. they can often last for anywhere from an hour to two or three hours, depending on the people present and the time available. during each course, special Sabbath songs are sung. the words to some of these songs are hundreds of years old, written by Jewish sages and mystics. some of the melodies are also old, past down from parent to child. also, there are discussions on spiritual topics, such as the weekly portion of the Torah, (a passage from the Five Books of Moses), and other religious topics are discussed. talking about worldly everyday matters is frowned upon on the Sabbath. Another intresting feature is that the Friday might meal starts with two interesting songs that all communities sing. One is dedicated to the angels, who come to bless the house with peace. the other is a rendition of Proverbs 31: The woman of valor, and the husband is supposed to face his wife when he sings it. With such long meals, and with no interruptions from telephones, etc., there is a lot of time for the family to reconnect. It is a very beautiful thing to be a part of. Judaism also sees eating in general as a holy act and considers the table an altar. so, as you can see, this is much more than just pure eating. Well, I'm still exercising. I did a yoga routine today. I am feeling good with myself right now. Tziporah
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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 10:16pm
Hi Karen, Last night I heard on the BBC about the man-made flooding in Louisiana, the result of the Mississippi River being severely swoolen. According to the report, they said 25,000 homes were in danger of being loss. I thought of Louisiana and all the trials and tribulations people in that state have been through over the last few years: Katrina, the oil slick and now this. I hope you're okay. My heart goes out to you. Tziporah
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