Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007

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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am

Hi Tziporah,


I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.


I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.


Welcome again!


(PS: I love the sound of your name!)


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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 8:17am

Hello Tziporah,

Thank you for explaining the Sabbath meals to me.

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 8:36am

Hi Tziporah,

In regards to the flooding.

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 3:29pm
Hi Karen, Well, I'm relieved to hear the flooding wasn't as bad as the news made it sound. Reminds me of something. After the State of Israel was established, they drained a central river basin because of the real threat to malaria, which was common back then--1948. Now, however, eccologists are saying that was a big mistake environmentally. I was reminded of that when you talked about how they hadn't opened these spillways for who-knows-how-many years. I had never heard of this St. Joseph's altar thing. The thing that blows my mind is how that boy, the one of seventeen children, could disappear into a homeless shelter for years. the way i see it--the mother probably had so many things to do she couldn't keep track of everybody. or, perhaps he felt he'd get more attention elsewhere. i'm glad you're on talking terms again with your mother. i guess i did read that whole situation right. good thing too your dh is due home shortly. Saturday will be a great red-letter day, i'm sure. as for me, today things have been getting harder again. went to the dentist for more work on my crowns. made the first payment--about $500. still have another payment, which will be even a little more. really close to the crunch financially. i have to make another payment to my t. i'm thinking about cutting back to every-other-week, although I know that's not optimal. as a result, i've been depressed about the money situation all day. my t. just says, "go out and find a job." yeah, tell me about it. who's hiring someone who's 56, blind, and has limitted skills? we had this discussion last week in therapy. according to him, it's not like I don't have any. I do--as a coach and Torah teacher. everybody wants you as look as you don't charge anything for your services. and if they do pay you, it's laughable. it costs more to get to the venue than to get paid. at least that's the way it is unless you're really well-known. well, feeling like a failure again. maybe my parents were;are right. i'm not a business type and will never be able to earn money. I 've started biting my cuticles again, making them bleed. it started when I went to the dentist, nervous I guess. actually, it started yesterday. after i got home, just did busy work on the computer. then lay in bed all afternoon and evening. finally got up at about 8pm, listened to the news, and finally got out of bed before Shabtai came in. I didn't want him to see me in bed--a common thing I do--get up before he comes in so he won't know that that's where I've been all the time. anyway, I had the chance to go out tonight to hear a speaker, but was too depressed. also, i did have some pain from the dental work, but mostly it was the depression over the money thing. only thing helping now is the exercise. i feel good doing it. i'm doing this yoga routine that has body massage in it, where you do self-massage. i really enjoy that. it's very warmth and soothing and helps me love myself a little bit. Tziporah
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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 11:47pm

Hi Tziporah,

There truly is nothing wrong with not being a business woman.

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Tue, 05-17-2011 - 3:45pm
Hi Karen, I really find your emails interesting. Keep writing. I don't know how they did it either--raising such large families, especially when you consider the fact they didn't have the modern conveniences we have today. I guess everybody just helped out--they had too. It makes much more sense now--after you explained it--about your uncle being in the homeless shelter. Mornings seem to be falling into a structure--I learn, exercise, work on the Torah class I need to prepare, do some more exercise, make lunch. It's the evenings that are harder. The depression gets worse in the afternoon. Bored. Still feeling very stuck over the earning-a-living issue. Have no idea what to do. Maybe my parents were right--I'm not able to earn money. Tziporah
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blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
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Tue, 05-17-2011 - 8:36pm

Hi Tziporah,

I'm glad I am interesting and not boring with my messages.

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Wed, 05-18-2011 - 9:10am
Hi Karen, You think you're longwinded? Look at some of my posts on this thread and then you'll know what "long-winded" means! laugh. Structure in the day. well, take today for example. I learned in the morning for about 90 minutes, which is average, and that was good. that was from about 5am-6:30am. then Shabtai came back from morning prayers and we relaxed till about 9:30. he left. i then did morning exercises. sometimes I do those at about 6:30, but today I was really involved in learning. after that, I worked on preparing a class. after that, I did some yoga. after that, it was time for lunch. then Shabtai and I said Psalms together. it is now about 4pm. the yoga made me feel very energetic. i have a class to give at 7pm my time, but besides that, I have totally free time. that's the thing--what to do with it. i know I should work on my website, but I really don't feel like it. so i don't. Shabtai goes out to classes in the evening and I'm pretty much on my own until he comes in. he learns from about 6:30--10pm, more or less. that's the thing--Shabtai has a very structured day, regulated by times for prayer, (tthere are 3 daily prayers a day men are required to say). women have less strict requirements--so I pray only once a day. (this refers to praying a set text of prayers). and whereas men are required to see this with a quorum of ten others, women are allowed to pray by themselves. then Shabtai has his set classes with his study groups. they meet every day Sundays--Thursdays. so his schedule, as you can see, is very structured. but it goes beyond that--he is doing exactly what he wants to do. and i'm happy for him in that. he has his pension from work, so he's got a great deal, all things considered. if i had kids, it would be a structured day also, with kids and their school day being the central structure. but i don't have that. and knowing what i really want to do is always a problem. i go through these cycles. for awhile i know what i want to do, and that keeps me busy for a few years, and then it starts all over again. that's where i'm at now. except this time the financial situation is a factor. and you know i have a lot of issues with that--this feeling that i'm not really capable of sustaining myself financially, something my parents always told me. Tziporah
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Wed, 05-18-2011 - 10:09am

Hello Tziporah,

It is about nine in the morning here as I write.

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Wed, 05-18-2011 - 11:53am
Hi Karen, Have a few minutes before my 7pm class. It's not common for women to go to synagogue during the week. They usually go only on the Sabbath. Some women do go, but generally if they do go during the week, it's for the morning or afternoon services. Not the evening one. Also, in Orthodox synagogues, which is what we have here, men and women pray in separate sections, and usually during the week the women's section is occupied by men involved in learning or is locked. so that's really not an option. you may think i'm making excuses. i'm not. this is just the reality. one piece of good news. we found a new phyysiotherapist for my mil who is less expensive and is trying out new approaches. this will save me about fifty dollars a week. we still have to pay for the new physio, but she's about half the price of the first one. Tziporah
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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 5:48am

Hi Tziporah,

I don't think you are making excuses.

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