Overcoming sexual abuse... need advice!
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|Fri, 03-28-2003 - 4:18pm|
Whenever my current boyfriend and I attempt to be more intimate, it triggers memories of my ex-boyfriend's sexual abuse and it upsets me to the point where I have to stop. It's not that I don't WANT to be intimate with him, but it seems that it gets to the point where I simply CAN'T. Usually it results with me shaking uncontrollably and crying. This is definitely taking a toll on my current relationship.
I explained to my current boyfriend what had happened to me in the past and he is very supportive and understanding. This was the first time I told anyone what happened to me. I feel ashamed by my past, almost like I deserved it and it is my own fault and yet now, I feel guilty for putting a strain on my current relationship and not being able to please my boyfriend the way that I would like.
If anyone could give me any advice on how to overcome this, I would be very appreciative. Thanks!