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|Thu, 04-10-2003 - 3:51pm|
I have been married to my husband for 10 years. Our relationship has in the past been one where he was verbally abusive & very much in "control". Over the past 2 years a new form of abuse emerged. While I was asleep, my husband would violate me with foreign objects. He would hide by the side of my bed, so that when I awoke I would be unaware of his presence. Initially I thought I was dreaming. One night though, I looked to the side of the bed & there he was lying on the floor hiding.
The incidents have repeated & no matter what I did~cried, screamed, hit, begged...he has continued. A month & a half ago, I told him that if he did not stop I wanted to end our relationship. For about a week he was less verbally abusive & he did not do the strange sexual acts.......until this past Saturday.
I just shut down this Saturday. I told him I am no longer in love with him & can't imagine ever being intimate with him again. His response has been to write me poetry, send flowers, cry....all very unlike him. He says he is a "new man" & will never repeat his abuse again.
I guess my main questions are....have any of you been sexually abused by your husband? Was he able to change? Were you able to regain intimate feelings for him after the abuse? Thanks in adance, JEM