Need to Know

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Need to Know
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Sun, 04-27-2003 - 2:08pm
I need to know this and no one responded to it when I first posted it so I'll post it again. what EXACTLY constitutes as rape? Hasn't there lately been some controversy over it?

Valerie
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Registered: 03-21-2003
Sun, 04-27-2003 - 4:55pm
What do you want, a legal definition? If so, I'm sure it varies from state to state. Why not call your local prosecutor's office?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 04-27-2003 - 6:09pm
Hi Valerie,

I'm confused a bit as well. I guess I'm curious what purpose you have. The word "rape" is a label in many regards. "Abuse" is more encompassing. And to me abuse is when someone invades my personal boundaries without my consent.

So, why are you asking? Just curious.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 04-28-2003 - 5:05pm
I don't know, closure, confusion, I guess. I suppose i just didn't realize that it was such a terrible question to ask.

Valerie
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Registered: 03-21-2003
Mon, 04-28-2003 - 7:28pm
It's not a terrible question to ask--just a difficult one to answer. I hope you don't feel discouraged from asking other questions in the future, because you're certainly more than welcome to do so!
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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 10:19pm
Valerie,

This may trigger, so please don't read on if you're not feeling safe.

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I think the question is valid. I think it's just that it may have different meaning for different people. Then there's the whole legal definition vs. what someone thinks. I looked on Merriam-Webster on-line b/c your question got me thinking. Plus, I remember once a friend saying that even if sexual intercourse was not part of your being sexual abused, the person still has been raped in a sense.

Here's what m-w.com says,1 : an act or instance of robbing or despoiling or carrying away a person by force 2 a : sexual intercourse with a woman by a man without her consent and chiefly by force or deception 3 : an outrageous violation

If one would go by this definition alone, then rape would be any type of sexual abuse, IMHO. I certainly feel that being sexually abused was an outrageous violation, as well as an act of robbing--robbing my trust, my safety, my sense of balance, etc. I don't know if that helps at all, or not. Again...you got me thinking and just wanted to share. Take care, Stacy

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 05-04-2003 - 1:02pm
thanks, stacy. that cleared it up for me. i just decided that i'm okay now. i don't need a board. its all behind me now. i can be on my own.

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