wwyd if this was your situation?
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|Wed, 05-14-2003 - 10:53pm|
I worry so much, wondering if he abused his younger sister or any of the other children his mother babysat (she ran a licensed daycare, and often had children overnight so their parents could work the night shift or go to school at night or sleep if they had to) this is why I was even there...my mother was working and going to school and every now and again we'd stay overnight.
When I was 17, we'd moved back into the area, and my mother went on a trip overseas. She arranged for me to stay at this lady's house again for the week because she didn't think I could be trusted on my own (I had a boyfriend she didn't like).
I forced myself to stay in the same room as I'd been abused in (not my choice, it was the room I was given)..I didn't say anything then...I figured if I couldn't speak up then I deserved to have to stay there...and I also thought MAYBE if I stayed there and was safe, that part of me would heal. I think it DID help a little bit, but it was still an extremely difficult time for me to have to stay there again.
It's been some 20 years now, but I still wonder if I shouldn't tell this lady because he may have abused others. Maybe she knows he's abused others...or maybe it would break her heart more than it's already been (the boy had been a delinquent then and still in/out of jail as an adult)...and I don't want to hurt her...I don't blame her for her son's actions, I've always understood that it was his decision and his sickness/evilness.
At this point I know I probably couldn't even bring charges...I don't think that would ever make a difference even if I could. I've known since it happened that ultimately he'd answer to God and go to hell for his sins...so I've never had a desire for revenge, only to heal myself...
I DID finally tell my mother about a year ago and got basically the response I'd expected, she doesn't believe me and rather brushed it off "well I'm sorry that happened to you. you should deal with it and get some counseling" ...
anyway I'm just wondering if anyone thinks I should still tell this lady next time I'm in town (I wouldn't do it over the phone or anything, it's something to do in person if I do)?