Need suggestions for dealing w/anger
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|Tue, 06-17-2003 - 6:47pm|
Anger is particularly difficult for me. My counselor has pointed out to me that I wasn't allowed to be me growing up. It was wrong for me to be upset, and that has affected the way I handle my emotions now. I avoid conflict as much as possible. I generally don't want people to know when I am angry because I don't want them to not like me. I usually tell myself I have no reason to be angry and that I'm overreacting and look so far for the other side that I convince myself I was lacking in judgment. When I do get angry there is an immediate internal conflict between truly feeling angry and telling myself I shouldn't be feeling that way. It's immediately followed by guilt and shame. By the time the whole episode has passed I'm completely depleted of energy; totally exhausted. And I still feel bad for being angry.
I would appreciate any suggestion any of you here can give me on ways you deal with anger. It is a scary feeling for me. Besides any self-talk you may do, what do you do physically to deal with this emotion? The last couple of nights I've walked FAST.
It seems like since this has been addressed in therapy as something I need to work on, I've had a lot more incidents where I've been upset than I usually do. It's wearing me out.