I share about my group here often because it has been so pivotal in my life--far more than individual counseling, I think because my main problem after the abuse was isolation--and I so often read posts here and wish that folks here had a similar place to go. For me, group has helped me to take principles I learned through individual therapy and through reading books and practice and discuss them in safety. Most importantly, it has led me to take down the walls all around me. I feel like a real person for the first time in my life. For me, group was a safe little microcosm, and it has given me courage to go out into the real world and just be myself. For me, that's healing. I can't say enough good things about my group. I hope that some of you reading will at least give it a try. I think that one of the main ways that sexual abuse keeps us down is through isolating us, and a group is a great way to de-isolate and heal.
I would be very open to group if I found the right fit. I definitely find strength in numbers, and it would be a way to step out when I feel like isolating myself.
HeidiEdited 7/20/2003 12:04:13 AM ET by cl-breakinfree
co-cl, Sexual Abuse Healing Board
I believe that a group can work, it might take a while to find the right fit though. And it definately requires people with similar experiences.
My experience wasn't good but it wasn't bad. I think the therapists were so concerned with a safe space that they didn't push enough and let emotions out. So, yeah in a sense we were stuck. They did some great things to transition us to the outside world at the end of the sessions. I think my problem is I had individual therapy with a wonderful therapist and I had been posting on the board and gotten wonderful ideas from here, that the group therapy was then redundant. I wanted a big breakthrough and lots of sharing but it didn't happen.
And like you, I've been blessed with the most marvelous therapist. Group therapy was actually my ex-husband's idea and that was a few years ago. It's interesting, I know my current T leads a group yet she's never even brought up the possibility me. I wonder why. I think I'll ask her next time.