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|Tue, 08-12-2003 - 8:39pm|
After a few months of this I noticed a dramatic change in my 6 yr old.He started to become very aggressive and hard to handle when he would come home from dads house on the weekends.There was clearly something bothering him.When I questioned ex he became defensive and said I was overreacting and that nothing was going on.A few days later he agreed that maybe it was time to go back to opposite weekends. I was relieved.Things seemed to be somehwat better.
Well it has recently come to light that during the times when all 3 boys were together, they slept in the same bed together, and while my 6 yr old tried to go to sleep his older brother was forcing him to do oral sex on him.I thank God that my ds finally told me, and was comfortable enough to come to me finally.I am HORRIFIED that this has happened.It literally makes me sick to my stomach.Im mad at myself because I wasnt more adamant about them being together.Call it mothers instinct, I dont know.
My problem now is this.My mother and some others think I should press charges.Im not about revenge, I just want to be assured that it will be dealt with, by therapists or whatever(he does still see one) and I DONT want him around the boys EVER.Im planning on sending out letters to family member whatever, letting them know that they arent to be togther, but Im unsure whether I should take legal action.Plus, Im not sure I fully trust my ex either.He was in the other room when this went on under his nose.He knew of his ds' past and yet he still put them all in the same bed, same room unsupervised(he had tried to get cousins of his to do this to him as well)I know things can happen even under watch of the best parents, but my ex does not have a history of being all that attentive( he has very bad bonding issues, recovering alcoholic, bipolar as I said) What do I do?The boys like going to dads on the weekends, I dont want my older ds suddenly feel like hes being "punished" after telling me the truth.How do I rest with them over there on the weekends.I know that ex wont have older ds around them, but ex's sisters have always turned a blind eye when it comes to that child and at this point they are sugar coating it, saying "boys will be boys".