Triggered by wedding & totally confused

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Triggered by wedding & totally confused
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Mon, 09-22-2008 - 5:04pm

I need some help! (maybe some triggers)


My brother's wedding was Saturday and one of the uncles who keeps coming up in therapy work was there.

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 5:39pm
Heidi,

I'm sorry but where I am right now I can't say more then I hear you and am thinking about you.

 

 

 

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 5:57pm

Hi Heidi


I'm sorry this was a tricky time for you - I am facing a family wedding too, so I understand the anxiety related to seeing people who are a problem to you.


You were so brave to go and sit through it. I am sorry that it was difficult, and that your little girl parts struggled with it. You are definately NOT crazy. You had courage to face something that was hard.


"That abusers don't have to look guilty to be guilty?" Definately - I was so angry when my db called me and pretended that everything was ok. It's like, how dare you not seem to be affected by this. I don't know if thats what you felt.


Thinking of you, and admiring your strength and courage. What are you going to do for little Heidi to make her feel safe and important?


Rubie x

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 6:04pm
Thank you, Brenda.

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 6:08pm

Thanks for your note, Rubie, and for reminding me that I need to do something for Little Heidi to make her feel safe and important.

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Registered: 06-18-2003
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 6:44pm

Hi Heidi,


I'm so sorry that this was so hard for you.

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 6:45pm

Anytime Heidi


Oooh Cinderella! there is nothing like a bit of Disney to make your little girl feel better. I promised little Rubie a trip to Disney world one day.


My family wedding, my sister's, is in November. I'm bricking it! Keep telling myself that it'll be ok, but I don't know. But I guess if you can do it, I can too.


But there was also a sense of "I must be crazy to think he did that; everything seems too normal."

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 10:09pm

(((((Heidi))))) I'm so proud of you! You rock, girl!

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Registered: 03-28-2008
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 12:25am

Heidi, IMHO I think you handled it all very well.

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 1:04pm

Thanks for all you wrote, Allie.

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 1:06pm
Thanks, Jax--I appreciate your post.

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