Disassociation

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Disassociation
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Fri, 02-20-2009 - 11:52am
Is there a way I can help keep my wife from disassociating? I don't know what can trigger it, and it really throws me for a loop when it happens. She still won't go to her counselor so I carry all the pressure
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: hubbyfred
Fri, 02-20-2009 - 12:53pm
The simple answer here is no, unfortunately
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Registered: 06-02-2008
In reply to: hubbyfred
Sat, 02-21-2009 - 12:40am

The prevention aspect isn't so easy, but there are things you can try to do to re-orient her to the present depending on the situation.

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In reply to: hubbyfred
Sat, 02-21-2009 - 8:36am
Great post! Thanks!!
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In reply to: hubbyfred
Sat, 02-21-2009 - 1:14pm
Hi Fred, I don't have much to add to healings post.
 

 

 

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In reply to: hubbyfred
Sat, 02-21-2009 - 7:09pm
Glad you liked it.
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In reply to: hubbyfred
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 9:52am

Hi again,


I forgot that your wife went to the counselor who told her to stop thinking about the past. What a tragedy to run into a "professional" who hasn't a clue about our issues. But I misread your post when you said your wife refuses to go back to counseling. I thought you meant she refused to return to that counselor. See, I can completely understand why your wife might not want to return to that counselor. IMO, she shouldn't! However, there are counselors out there who have specialized training for our complex issues so I hope she can look into finding someone better qualified to help her.


Let me cut to the chase and tell you

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In reply to: hubbyfred
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 11:22am

Hi hubbyfred,


I think everyone who's replied to your post has offered great insight.

LUCKY

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In reply to: hubbyfred
Tue, 02-24-2009 - 6:03pm
Thanks for your comments. I know I have to quit feeling sorry for her and try more of a tough love