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| Sat, 03-14-2009 - 10:54pm |
Hi I think I posted on this board or one similar to it about 5yrs. ago. long time ago. Unfortunately I am still where I was then.
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Thank you for sharing. I am very happy that things are working out with your dh. My dh and I are not getting back together. He is starting to get resentful and mean. He transfered his paycheck and our savings account into a
I have had a lot of fear surrounding the issue of sex, too. I think that's pretty common for CSA survivors, really. My husband does something that really helps me. For one, he's really patient and understands that it takes some time for me to "warm up." When I'm having a really hard time warming up, he says reassuring things to me such as, "You're safe. I would never do anything to hurt you." For me, those words are like magic keys that unlock me and release me from my fears. I especially appreciate that he says them without being asked. When I'm in that fearful frame of mind, I don't even think of asking, usually. It's taken us many years to get to this point; we didn't start out this way!
There are books out there that are just for sexual healing, but for me, my husband's help has been much more useful. I am glad that he can help me claim that part of my life. I don't want to say no because I am afraid. I'd much rather get past the fear and live my life the way
You are loved, You are Special, You are WORTH IT!
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I just wanted to assure you that you can get to a place where your heart aswell as your head finally understands it's not your fault and you are not bad or guilty as I am living proof.
It's taken a while and it's been a very hard road, but my feelings finally caught up with me last week.
Now the only problem, is once you stop blaming yourself, you then get the full fury of other people and how they have wronged you, that is hard but at least its not blaming you.
You can do, keep with it
Thank you for recommending the book. I have not purchased it yet but I will.
I have never thought of the way I cope in that perspective. On the positive side, I didn't end up on drugs, in a gang, or something worse. The way I grew up I really could have ended up that way.
On the flip side though. Could I not have prevented a
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