Am I being abusive?
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|Sun, 07-26-2009 - 12:53pm|
This is the hardest question I have to ask but I am starting to wonder if I am.
I am quite strong willed and confident in some ways. I was s abused until the age of 5 by my dad.
I am 30 now, have had 2 years of therapy and have temporarily stopped.
I am in a relationship now with I guy I really love to pieces, he is afraid of commitment and this makes my fear of abandonment worse.
We keep having these problems over and over again, he is mildly autistic and I get really upset or mad by some of his behaviour/decisions, in other ways I am really caring, affectionate and supportive.
But, I keep having these temper tantrums where I will go in a huge sulk when he has said or done something I don' like.
I feel like I have given him soooo much, so much stuff love and support etc and I feel like the things I need like stability (he quit his job recently as he wants to start new career so he is living at his parents) he is not giving me.
We keep going round in the same cycles and I am wondering if I am an abuser by my anger, that is passive. but I don't know how to stop these temper tantrums I don't get violent I am just very sulky.
I am so scared I am becoming an abuser like my dad was with my mom.