abuser's parole hearing..
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|Fri, 10-02-2009 - 11:18am|
My daughter was sexually assaulted by a family member right before her sixth birthday. He was an eighteen year old family member of my husband's. My daughter is nine years old now.
The abuser (I have a few better words I like to call him) was convicted about a year after it happened and has been in jail for about two and 1/2 years. I just got a letter from the parole board saying that he is in review status. That letter jolted me. It made me sick to my stomach. First of all, I had already felt he got off easy with a 5-10 years. Now I am getting word that he may be out in 4-6 months. I am disgusted.
I was told that I could send in a statement to help the parole board make a decision and I have asked her professional counselor, her school couselor, her teachers, and a few others to send in statements of how this has impacted her life.
I haven't sent anything myself because I am so fixated on writing the right thing. I don't want him to be released. I am afraid he will assault another child. I am afraid next time he won't let the chlld live. I wish he would dissappear off the face of the earth.
I know none of those things will happen, but I am just sooo full of emotions and I haven't told my daugther. If i feel this way I cannot fathom how she will feel. she is just beginning to improve her behavior at school. She is getting the best grades ever. The frequency of her "sad days" has decreased. She is doing great and I do not want to spoil that for her.
I love her sooo much and I hate that she had to go through such a horrible, horrible experience that she cannot forget. She still tells me that she feels like it was her fault. The couselors and I have explained to her over and over how it wasn't her fault, but she still feels guilty. That breaks my heart. She was just a five year old baby.
I don't know if anyone else has had to send in letters to a parole board, but I just wanted to share. I will have to send something in and not worry about whether I said everything or if I left something out.