Pushing Partners Away

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Registered: 03-11-2006
Pushing Partners Away
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 8:16pm
Hi there. I'm new to the board. I was sexually abused by my father until I was 14 years old. At 17 I found out he was abusing others in the family so I went to the police and pressed charges on him and have not seen or heard from him since. I have been through years of therapy due to this and effects from it and am very happy with how I have dealt with most of it. My issue that remains, and no therapy seems to help, is that I push partners away. It only seems to happen in my romantic relationships, although I am slow to really let anyone in until they have earned my trust. I have learned a lot of techniques and they make perfect sense when I'm being logical, but when these feelings come up I am running on pure emotion and I lose control. I'm looking for concrete things I can do when I'm feeling insecure and scared of trusting so I don't pick fights and force my partner to leave. Any ideas?!


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Registered: 06-02-2008
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 7:26pm

Trust takes time to build.

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Fri, 02-19-2010 - 6:28pm

Welcome to our board we are glad you found us.

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