Hello this is a long story.

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Hello this is a long story.
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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 12:48am

I have been lurking on/off here for a few years. I might of posted something, but I think I deleted it for fear of someone finding it.


Well When I was around 7 ( exact age is hard to remember because I have blocked out alot)

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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 1:05am

Oh my, I am so sorry for your turmoil. Our stories are so similar it scares me. My dad started abusing me around age 6, and I was told that if I told my mother she would leave him and my brothers would hate me for taking their dad away. I finally told at age 14. She went to the cops, he was arrested, I was put in a girls home and couldn't return as long as he was there(this was in case he posted bond). She would come see me on Sundays, and beg me to say I lied so he could come home. Finally I did, and he was released. I went to stay at an aunts house. I had my daughter at age 15. I went home after about a yr of living with the aunt. That lasted all of 6 months, and my mom accused me of having an affair with my dad, so I packed up my stuff and my daughter and moved out.


When I finally confronted him , he denied it and said it must have been the meds he was on at the time.

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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 1:15am

I should clarify, my daughter is a result of the first time I had sex. My dad never actually had intercourse with me.

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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 1:22am
Thank you so much. This puts things into prospective for me as well. I too lived with my parents when my son was younger because my husband( finace at the time) was on another deployment. Now I felt like if I said anything to the other family memebers they would question me for going back there. I did finally confide in my aunt and 2 cousins. My aunt said she remembers us going to stay with my grandma and her for 4 days. She said mom said she was leaving him for good and she was so happy because he always kept us away from them. When my mom went back she was sad. My aunt is 10 yrs older than me, and she told me she feels guilty for not noticing.
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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 1:23am
I am glad that she was not from him, and he disgusts me saying that! I am sorry you had to go threw all of that. I know you are a strong woman.

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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 1:25am
BTW I am not saying if she was you should feel different, I am just glad that is something that she will not have to endure. Hope I didn't offend you!

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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 1:29am
Thank you , and You are also a strong woman.
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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 1:31am
No offense taken, she became my world. And she got married this past weekend. I don't know what I am gonna do without her, we grew up together. She has been my one true friend for 19 yrs.
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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 11:49am
congrats to her. I know you will still be a very big part of her life :)
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Mon, 04-12-2010 - 10:23pm
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Registered: 07-18-2006
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 5:16pm
Thank you for your kind welcome. Today I was having a hard day. I still have a hard time dealing with the fact my mom chose my dad over me, even if she doesn't see it that way.

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