Sharing your past with a new partner
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|Thu, 05-13-2010 - 9:43am|
I've been on iVillage message boards for many years now but haven't posted on this one I don't think...seems I have so many issues that I jump from one message board to another so it's hard to keep track lol. My history - I was molested by my doctor when I was 5. I'm not sure how long it went on for but it was about a year until my family moved. Since I was so young I was unsure of what happened for years until high school. I have since had problems with men my entire life - mistrust and abusive relationships and was raped to add to it all. Surprisingly, I feel like I've managed to go about my life fairly OK. Now, I am in a healthy relationship with a very nice guy but I know my past affect me and my reactions to things. I don't know if I should share my past with him...I feel like there's no good way to tell, and every time I want to I hate feeling like I'm opening a closet full of trauma spilling out. In a way him not knowing makes me feel more "normal." Can anyone share their experience with telling their partner or advice on what to do?