Finding a Tarot Reader

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Registered: 06-21-2004
Finding a Tarot Reader
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 7:01pm
Hi Everyone,

I am a reader and based on what my clients have told me about their experiences with other readers I have a lot of suggestions for you--what to look for and what to avoid. I know there are a lot of wonderful readers out there and there are a lot of awful readers who tell people terrible things just to scare the person into asking tons of questions. On my web-site, www.tarotbylillian.com I have a section called how to choose a tarot reader. Click on that link and it lists a bunch of things I've thought about based directly on what I've heard from my clients and through my own experience as well. I've heard it all and am amazed at the things I hear--go bury $900 in a box under a tree for one night and the next day mail it to me was the worst. My poor client almost did send the money to this person. Some of us really do want to help our clients.

Truly, Lillian

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Registered: 12-31-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 7:51am

Hi Lillian, what a pretty site.

 

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 12:14pm
Great post! I've been reading professionally for about six years now, and I can't believe some of the horror stories I've heard from people who have gotten themselves mixed up with less-than-ethical readers! I've had to do alot of repair work. Really enjoyed the tips on your site!
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Registered: 06-21-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:42pm
hi m:),

thanks for your reply. That's what I also feel like, that I'm doing repair work when people feel horrible after some crazy person tells them awful and untrue stuff. Can you imagine the terrible karma that reader is bringing upon his or her self? That kind of stuff can really impact people in lasting ways. I think I'm a pretty conservative reader compared to most and always try to get people to set themselves as the foundation rather than feeling that their happiness depends on another person. I answer my client's questions but try to keep them focussed on their own ground.

You mentioned in your profile that you're a therapist (my husband is also). Have you ever read any stuff by I. Yalom? I think he's wonderful. He's written a novel "When Nietzsche Wept" and also a book with a lofty title "Existential Psychotherapy" that is actually pretty accessible for someone even without a psychology degree.

Nice chatting with you:).

Truly, Lillian

www.tarotbylillian.com


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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 2:50pm
Oh, I know exactly what you're talking about. I would rather focus on the client's own empowerment rather than leaving them thinking that their lives are in the wind, to be determined by anybody that happens to drop in!

You know, I've never even HEARD of I. Yalom. Have I been under a rock, or what? Will definitely check it out. Thank you! What type of therapy does your husband do, if you don't mind my asking? I am currently working in the behavioral field, with autistic children.

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Registered: 06-21-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 3:19pm
Hi M,

My husband works with people who have pain problems, mostly people with spinal cord injuries. He teaches his patients how to use meditation, biofeedback, and hypnosis to help them lessen their pain and starts sessions and groups by showing them a video with Tibetan monks walking on coals and not feeling the pain! I guess you'd call his area mind/body medicine. When we had our baby I told the doctors not to listen to him because I was open to any pain medicine I could be given! I bet your field is a tough one to work in. I think I'd get so emotionally involved I wouldn't know how to stop.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 5:33pm
Oh, that has to be one of the most fascinating fields in psychology! So many people don't realize that pain is a mental event. Great, great stuff! Up here in Canada, it is almost impossible to find that type of therapy for some reason. I keep wishing this thing would get going up here.

Actually, I find my field relaxing. It's something like a meditation, because I have to completely forget about me, and give my all physically, emotionally, and mentally. So I just love it. And yes, I get emotionally involved, in that I love my client. But it's love without ownership, and I am always aware that I will need to let go at some point.

Hugs!

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Registered: 12-31-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 6:16pm

Hi Lillian

 

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 6:24pm

Cara!

~Nicole

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Registered: 12-31-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 6:43pm

Awwww, thank you so much Magic!!!

 

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 2:07pm

I agree Cara!

~Nicole

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