A challenge...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
A challenge...
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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 7:36pm

I try to live my life by the philosophy of "Love your neighbor as you love yourself"...I know alot of people do. Today, I want to challenge all of you to Love yourself as you love your neighbor. I know I treat my neighbors, friends and family much better than I do myself most of the time. So, I am challenging you to treat yourself as you would treat your neighbor. For me....

1. I am going to buy that bouquet of flowers that I love because it would make me happy and I would buy it for my friend if I thought they would like it.
2. I am going to feed myself good food instead of junk food...I wouldn't feed my friend junk food because I'm too busy to cook.
3. I will go to bed early to get plenty of sleep...I would never dream of keeping a friend awake to do laundry.

What will you do?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mcduenas
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 7:53pm

I grew up thinking it was selfish to love yourself.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 12:07am
Ohhhhhhh, good one!! This is something I struggle with big time. I'm horrible about asking for help or doing for myself. I love my friends unconditionally, but beat myself up for past mistakes and stupid choices. I will forgive myself for the stupid things I've done and said that are now water under the bridge. I will be grateful for the second chances I've been given and give myself that same second chance to start over and enjoy what I've got. :-)
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Registered: 12-31-2003
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 8:50am

I think this is such a good thing to do for yourself.

 

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Registered: 12-31-2003
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 8:58am

" I grew up thinking it was selfish to love yourself.

 

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Registered: 12-31-2003
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 9:00am
That's a really good one too!

 

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Registered: 05-04-2004
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 10:21am

Ooh, Mcduenas, enjoy that bouquet a flowers!!! What a lovely idea!


Today, I would like to do the following for myself:


1. enroll in an aromatherapy workshop


2. finish a chapter in Essential Reiki


3. work through at least 1 1/2 belly dance instructional videos.


:-D

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Registered: 03-09-2001
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 12:08pm

This is a very good exercise! :) When I chose to dedicate myself to the Goddess and to the Wiccan Path, the main tenet I found out, was "Harm None." Following this precept has helped me work on this concept that you are talking about --> that "harm none" includes *ME,* too! :P Especially as females, we are conditioned to BE the nurturers, but are not also reminded to nurture OURSELVES. Sometimes there is a conflict in perception, that nurturing oneself is a "bad" thing, a "selfish" thing. I've learned being selfish isn't always bad. It's about setting limits and taking care of me, and in order to be Goddess to others, I must do this first, or I have very little to give others.

1. Make sure I have time for my t'ai chi session and sitting meditation today.
2. I will listen to music with beauty and spirit.
3. I will eat healthfully.

Gypsy



Blessings,

Gypsy

)O(



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Registered: 03-09-2001
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 12:11pm

What a wonderful exercise! :)

Gypsy



Blessings,

Gypsy

)O(



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Registered: 02-27-2004
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 3:13pm

Great one mcduenas :-)

I am going to forgive myself for not being superwoman. My mum has always played favourites with me and my brothers and sisters. She is now 79 and at the end of last year she had an operation and as the only child still living locally I had to do all the necessary things for her and vist her every night whilst she was in hospital for several weeks. Nothing I did was enough for her and she continually moaned about anything that I had forgotten - as there were lists of things she wanted me to do every day I forgot several things over the weeks ;-) I felt very undervalued at the time as of my 2 sisters and 3 brothers only 1 brother bothered to travel the distance to visit her while she was in hospital and of course all she could talk about was this wonderful thing he'd done to come see her. I'd moved on from this until I saw a friend last night who told me she had seen my mum a week ago and she had spent the whole conversation telling her about all the things I either didn't have time to do or forgot to do and so I am going to be kind to myself and give myself permission to be less than perfect.

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Registered: 12-31-2003
In reply to: mcduenas
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 5:02pm
Oh that is so sad that you have done so much for your Mother and she

 

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