What does it mean?

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Registered: 02-27-2004
What does it mean?
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Sun, 02-27-2005 - 7:51am

It's weird isn't it how all of a sudden you know why you are drawn to a particular place!?! Well the other day several posts on here seemed to hit me all at once and made me realise that there are several issues from my childhood that I had never fully dealt with and I suddenly realised that I was meant to be here at that particular time they needed to be brought to light.

I have been overweight all of my adult life and I have known for some time that I am an emotional eater who nurtures myself with food but have not felt ready until recently to start to deal with my emotions, many of which stem from the still unresolved issues from my childhood.

What I am confused about though is what I do next. I keep hearing people say that they have 'worked through' an issue, but what exactly do they mean? HOW DO you work through an issue or an emotion? Does that mean they talked about it to someone or that they maybe gave themselves permission to think about the issue and feel the emotions until they just didn't feel them anymore? and how do you know when you've worked through it? In my family we were brought up to surpress our emotions with the belief that so long as you were OK on the outside you must be OK on the inside.

As you can see I'm very confused, but also excited to finally be facing up to things so any suggestions would be welcomed.

Thanks
Carol

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 6:03am
I never had issues with being over or underweight, but for a long time, I was a junk food junkie! I always drank soda and ate whatever there was in the snack food isle of the drugstore I worked at. I never gained weight, but I had no muscle tone and felt weak all the time. I decided to change the way I ate too.
What I do is make sure I eat healthy over the week and, if I indulge, it's on the weekends. We'll either go out to eat or I'll make a special dessert. This way, I don't feel deprived and I have something to look forward to. I was never into vegetables and fruits and all. I think the hardest part is getting your body used to the good foods instead of the bad. Eventually, I started craving salads and yogurt instead of ice cream and chips. Now if I have a soda, it takes so sweet it is almost sickening and salty foods taste really bitter to me.
I had to stop the bad eating also because my cholesterol was over 300 and I was 28. My mom had a heart attack when she was 37, and I knew I was going down the same path. I forgot who said this, but I always thought it was good advice. Don't struggle with willpower. Willpower is your subconscious mind changing your way of thinking. Choose to change your lifestyle by positive affirmations, and your willpower will work for you, not against you.
Good Luck!
Love and Blessings!
R-

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