Saying Goodbye...
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| Thu, 04-14-2005 - 10:51am |
Well SIL is leaving to go back home on Friday after being here for two months. DH and I met her last night for a drink and to say goodbye. We were talking and she was happy that she completed her "mission" of coming to NY to clear her mind and be on her own to do whatever she wanted. So, we got talking about affirmations and I put my hand on her shoulder and told her, "We have miles and miles to go before we sleep and this is only a small mission compared to all the things you will do in your life..." Well, she didn't understand what I said and got defensive with me. I cannot win, I thought I was giving her some wisdom but she didn't want it. So, I was a little hurt and disappointed because it seems there is a communication problem between us and we are on different pages in life (I am 7 years older than her).
Dh and I went home last night and as I was watching TV, I thought to myself, she is leaving Friday (and she will come over to me Friday morning to bring back some things she borrowed before she leaves), and I don't want to be sunk in my pride and not do something nice for her. So, I thought about writing some words to her in a card but nothing came to mind because it didn't feel genuine as I am still a little hurt. Then I thought of the words to the song, "New York, New York" and how she came here to a big city from a small city and made it on her own for two months. So, I will give her the words tomorrow and say goodbye. I'm anxious because we will say goodbye just the two of us without DH there and I hope that I can hug her with love and not think of my hurt and disappoinment with her.

Throughout your posts I have been unclear as to why you feel such a deep sense of responsibility to your SIL.