Am I the Fool?
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Am I the Fool?
| Sat, 04-30-2005 - 4:49pm |
Let me start off by saying, I am a strong believer in prayer, and I know that all things are possible through Christ Jesus! But I stray, and lately it seems like I have strayed more times then I can count. I have prayed to God and put my life in his hands, yet I have not been allowing him to work through me. I am a single mother with 1 child a 7 1/2 month baby girl. Her father has not being helpful at all, and I thought that I have been a good mother. I started back in school when I was pregnant for Medical Billing, took 6wks off to have my daughter and went back. I get help from my family and some from the state. I want so much for her to know her father, so when he calls and asks can he come see her, I say sure. I have even allowed him to spend the night on my couch so when she woke up he could be the one to help her go back to sleep. I have not gotten upset, that he is not helping financially or that he comes to see her every now and then, but I have let him no that what he is not doing is not right. We have not gone to court yet, so he has not rights to pay child support or visit her. I do have a huge problem with his mother seeing my child, she drinks alot, and is not mentally stable, and he knows this. Yet when I do talk to him he will not see my point of not allowing our child to be around someone like that. And recently he stole $120 from me, and now I can't locate him. I am not sure if any of this is making sense, but I need your prayers and advice. I feel like I have no control over the situation, and that I am at fault for allowing this to take place all this time.

Chrissy Honey, you DO have control over the situation. You need to CHOOSE to TAKE control. You need to decide what is more important to you: having the father in Baby's life in whatever capacity he's willing to be (meaning it's comepletely on HIS terms) or having the respect for yourself to be treated fairly and teaching your daughter to do the same. Remember that children pay a lot more attention to our actions than they do our words. If she sees you allowing him to use you (and that's exactly what he's doing) then she will grow up believing that is how she is supposed to be treated too. But if you stand up for yourself NOW, and insist not only that he provide for his child and do what's best for her, then she will expect respectfully as she grows up. The fact that he's stolen from you and is not concerned for her wellbeing where his mother is concerned tells that he's not the sort of influence you want in your daughter's life.
Now, as for praying for help... this may sound a bit harsh, but God helps those who help themselves. You can't allow yourself to be treated like a doormat, then expect Divine Intervention. You have to use your God-given intelligence and free will and stand up to this man.
(((Hugs))) and good luck!
Pray to our Lord.
152.6&n
#1 BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!
Being a single mom is tough! Don't be so down. Think of the things you are trying to do to better yourself!
#2 CLEAN HOUSE
A child's father is very important to them, but he seems more into himself than his child at this time. It is his responsibility to take care of his child financially so get the ball rolling and make him become responsible. Take him to court and let the state help you get everything situated considering support and visitation.
Remember that everyone makes mistakes in life and if you were perfect, you would have nothing to learn from being on this Earth. There is a reason for everything that happens and, believe me, there have been some tough times in my life where I never thought things would get better. When I started believing in myself and expressing my concerns and opinions instead of relying on others opinions, truths or choices,etc... is when a more positive outlook came into my life.
Never give up! Stand up for yourself and keep praying no matter if, at the time, you feel like no one is listening to you. Before you know it, things will change. With or without your EX in your life!
Love,
Robbyn
Your message is filled with wonderful affirmations!
Shyla