Do you have regrets?
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Do you have regrets?
| Mon, 05-16-2005 - 12:44pm |
I try not to. I think that if you regret the past...then you can't accept who you are now. Regret is not worth the energy of hashing over. If it weren't for the mistakes we have made, we wouldn't be "us"now. And I think that I am who I am for reasons I will never understand, but shouldn't question.
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Ooooohhhhh, thank you Ginger.cookie, it so breaks your heart, doesn't it?
Thanks Barbara and also to Cara who was brave enough to share that with us. Barbara your message to Cara made me feel a better too. I too have felt terrible guilt sometimes about my first pregnancy, which occurred because I wasn't being as careful as I should have been. We'd just got engaged and were planning to get married the following year so certainly weren't planning to start a family at that point. I know I should have been more careful. My daughter too was a LOT of hard work when she was younger and literally just scraped through school. I too often wondered if it was part of my punishment for 'trapping' dh into having a family too soon, but Barbara's message just makes so much sense that I feel tons better.
Cara my daughter too never had friends at school and it is heartbreaking for parents to see that. She has many now, but still has a very strong personality and a tendency to be loud and headstrong.
Carol
I forgot in my earlier post to answer the question lol!!
I'm not sure if this is really classed a regret as such or just wistful thinking but my dad died when I was only 8 years old and I remember very little about him but there have been times when I have wished he had been here in person to share some of the major points in my life such as getting married, having my children etc. I graduate in July as a mature student and my mum is so looking forward to the ceramony as I will be the only one of her children to have done so, even though many of the grandchildren have achieved this. She said to me on the telephone the other evening that she wishes my dad had been here to see it too because he would have been so proud and that kind of made me sad too.
My sister too was killed in an accident when she was 16 and I was 12. We fought a lot as children, just silly kids stuff, but I often feel that we would have been good friends as adults and I have felt that we missed out on sharing sister kinds of things. I miss her a lot at times and wish we'd had the opportunity to share more of ourselves.
Carol
Carol, I think Barbara's responses are always so insightful.
It must be very sad to go through these milestones and not have them there in person.
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