Do you have regrets?

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Do you have regrets?
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 12:44pm

I try not to.  I think that if you regret the past...then you can't accept who you are now.  Regret is not worth the energy of hashing over.  If it weren't for the mistakes we have made, we wouldn't be "us"now.  And I think that I am who I am for reasons I will never understand, but shouldn't question.


Do you all have regrets?

 


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Registered: 12-31-2003
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 9:19pm

Ooooohhhhh, thank you Ginger.cookie, it so breaks your heart, doesn't it?

 

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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 1:30pm

Thanks Barbara and also to Cara who was brave enough to share that with us. Barbara your message to Cara made me feel a better too. I too have felt terrible guilt sometimes about my first pregnancy, which occurred because I wasn't being as careful as I should have been. We'd just got engaged and were planning to get married the following year so certainly weren't planning to start a family at that point. I know I should have been more careful. My daughter too was a LOT of hard work when she was younger and literally just scraped through school. I too often wondered if it was part of my punishment for 'trapping' dh into having a family too soon, but Barbara's message just makes so much sense that I feel tons better.

Cara my daughter too never had friends at school and it is heartbreaking for parents to see that. She has many now, but still has a very strong personality and a tendency to be loud and headstrong.

Carol

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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 11:26pm
go to meditation for couples/soul mates read reply 2 and save it pass it on if led to . ira
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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 11:30pm
read meditation for couples/soul mates reply 2 , save it pass it on if led to ira
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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 11:32pm
read meditation for couples/soul mates reply 2 pas it on if led to ira
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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 11:42pm
apreciate your reply keep up the good work thus honoring God. posted under meditations for couples/soul mates reply 2 save and pass it on if led to. ira also send some of your gained wisdom to me that you received from our magesties unlimited storehouse. in gaining truth to dispell errors and allowing living to gain LIFE in the only eternal family that is the family of God. to receive and dispense under the quidance of the holly spirit. blessyou precious one ir The goal of life written by ida m 1884 to 1948 other writing by ira
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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 11:51pm
this date meditations for couples/soul mates read reply 2 ira congradulations for your living which is important you are open and gaining LIFE. And receiving truth to dispel errors. thus receiving from the magesties unlimited suply store house to receive and dispense under the guidance of the Holy Spirit. and realize you are a precious one. That which you would not do over again or dwell in past etc is no longer you. even if records or society may hold it against you. There are the living dead and disembodied dead all are dead until made alive in Christ ira
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 4:41am

I forgot in my earlier post to answer the question lol!!

I'm not sure if this is really classed a regret as such or just wistful thinking but my dad died when I was only 8 years old and I remember very little about him but there have been times when I have wished he had been here in person to share some of the major points in my life such as getting married, having my children etc. I graduate in July as a mature student and my mum is so looking forward to the ceramony as I will be the only one of her children to have done so, even though many of the grandchildren have achieved this. She said to me on the telephone the other evening that she wishes my dad had been here to see it too because he would have been so proud and that kind of made me sad too.

My sister too was killed in an accident when she was 16 and I was 12. We fought a lot as children, just silly kids stuff, but I often feel that we would have been good friends as adults and I have felt that we missed out on sharing sister kinds of things. I miss her a lot at times and wish we'd had the opportunity to share more of ourselves.

Carol

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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 8:32am

Carol, I think Barbara's responses are always so insightful.

 

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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 8:45am

It must be very sad to go through these milestones and not have them there in person.