Follow Up

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Registered: 02-22-2005
Follow Up
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:36pm

Follow up to finding out about the past was a mistake. In the last posting, I was telling you all about finding the man who my mother said was my father and the problems that it was causing he and his family and myself. Well, unfortunately, test was done and turns out that he is not the father. This has left this man devastated but he does wish me well. He has not called since finding out about it.

The strange thing (or not strange thing) is that I am not angry with my mother. Although what she has done to me and what I have done to this man and his family has been near disasterous, but I cannot give her anymore energy than necessary in terms of anger. I still do not understand her motives nor will I try to given our past history and relationship. The problem is that I don't know what the next step is (I don't know her phone number to call her nor do I know of the other suitors that she may have had out there.)

Thank you all who provided me with your kind words and heart felt thoughts during this most difficult situation.

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 5:56pm

One sperm cell does not a father, make!


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Registered: 04-26-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 9:20pm
I am sorry for what you are going through. Perhaps now is a time to let it go, all the past and hurt? Move forward and gently close the door? Sending prayers for healing, inner guidance and peace. Hugs, Anna
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Registered: 03-30-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 10:24pm
Hugs for you in living and that this living which is very important leads one to LIFE with the discover who you are and why you are here.To know the importance of living.forgive those who have hurt you and if it is difficult then say you are willing to forgive, this does not mean that you have to open the door to them, for they have yet to be dealt with by the Lord.In prayer You may also ask for the return for all that has been taken from you and in so doing do not hate those who have hurt you.(leave that part with the LORD). It is often difficult to realize the same intensity of hurt and pain that one such as you have endured. So i sit here with tears in my eyes ,unworthy to even respond.Thus tears come for you, and it reminds me when grand father died, grand mother died, father died, mother died, elder brother died, younger brother died ,a very close family one brother still living, I never shed a tear for anyone of them. Married ,no children. when I pass on expect to get ready for next assignment. For if in the past you would not do something over again, then that is no longer you even though others may hold it agains you etc. In closeing take a rest and perhaps the Creator will show you that He was there with you when you did not even know it. Free choice remains yours. So many feel the pain and hurt for one another , just as Jesus wept for those who reject the righteous way and the Creator is hurt.(respects their free choice)and many that respond also share the pain and hurt. imperfect ira (others that respond also share their love with you)
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Registered: 12-31-2003
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 9:12am

SunshineSunset,


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Registered: 09-27-2003
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 10:21am
I'm glad your heart is much ligther in spite what happened.

 

 

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