Feeling very lonely and confused.

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Registered: 06-22-2005
Feeling very lonely and confused.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 3:05pm

Hello.

I am sitting here again struggling with these voices in my mind. I wish that I could wake up with srong faith everyday. I feel like I am a robot doing the same things over and over for everyone else. I wish I knew how to give my cares to God and forget them and live my life. I am not sure what is missing in my life...I wish I knew. I have two children 15 and 17 they are both very good kids. A husband who is kind and loving. I have tried for a cuple of years now to find out what I need in my life to make it fullfilled and still nothing comes to me. I will be turning 40 in a month and I thought maybe this was it as well. I thought though I was never the type of person to be bothered by my age.

If anyone has anay ideas on how to let go and let GOD take over the worries and struggles I have please post them for me.

Thanks.

lizzie

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 3:24pm
Hi Lizzie666!
I know how you feel. Women tend to focus on everything and everyone but themselves. Know that you are just as important as everyone you help! Take time for yourself. Go out with friends, treat yourself to something nice. Be selfish! You deserve to be sometimes!
I am the same as you. I felt my life revolved around everyone else and I never did anything for myself. I started to change things by journaling, meditation and finding my way to connect with God, something I felt comfortable with. It also helps to stay positive even when it seems all you can think of is the negatives...train yourself to think of the things you are grateful for.
You came to the right board for good advice. Everyone here has some very interesting ideas and concepts that may be what you are looking for. Stick around and I am sure you will find something that connects with you!
Love and Blessings,
R-
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 6:53pm

Welcome to the board, Lizzie.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 7:25pm
Hi Lizzie,
I don't know whether you have a clinical depression or
whether it is attitude, expectations or if you are having trouble
communicating with your hubby or diet??
I don't know if you can identify with me or if I can help by my
recent experiences because I am your mom's age. 65. A 65 who
had 4 dates this week with different men!!!!!! a 65 who is starting a new job
with a 15.25 raise from my present salary. Enought about trying
to prove I am young!!!!!!!!! hehe
last year I went into therapy because I was having
a hard time turning 65, I
never was in middle age and found mnyself a senior.
Like in 15 years being 80!!!!!!!!! I was depressed.
Besides my brother was dying. I spent 10 mon. with this
woman and came out happy.
I told her on visit one that I had done all I wanted to do,
I only wanted the "man" she said,
great that I finished the old list, for the next week I had to
list 10 NEW things to do with my life.
In that time I changed my attitude on men, got
spiritual about it where I truely believe
if it is meant to be God energy
will take care of it. I changed my job,
I got 2 baby kittens without the fear, if i meet the prince,
what do I do if he is allergic to cats? I stopped e-mailing my X man friend.
I started making greeting cards, people are buying them
and framing them. I have a new artistic outlet.
I am living more in the now, read Ekhart Tolle. I am in a
good period, there is no trauma in my life, I also am not
creating trauma. I am doing what I want to do, see my grandson,
friends, work, enjoy taking pictures, do art work, knit, give things away,
love people, cook a lot. Is there anything else??????? life is really
more simple, clean out the junk, love what is around you accept yourself.
Fish oil has been really good for me for depresion.
So, go out in nature, it is healing, learn to do reiki, say your prayers
with lots of thanks for your family. Give a lot and make sure you are replenished.
There are millions of ways to do that. That would be a thread in itself.
Love, Leila
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2004
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 2:25pm


I think I know how you feel.

Shyla

  

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Sun, 06-26-2005 - 12:27pm

Hey, Lizzie .. !


I remember when I was at my personal crossroads.