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I'm so Lost
| Sat, 08-20-2005 - 2:06am |
I'm so lost, can someone please help. This is the situation. I have been with my current boyfriend 11 years. We got engaged about 5 yrs ago. We have have alot of problems off and on for 11 yrs. He bought a house 5 yrs ago and I have been paying 1/2 the mortgage ever since. Since losing my job 6 wks ago he has been paying full mortgage and all bills, I have been paying for all groceries, my bills and whatever I could help out with. He has told me several times during an argument that he never intended to marry me, that he only got me the ring because that's what women want, hurt me so much with his words, but stayed because I have no money to get out on my own. He told me tonight that I really need to get a job because we are falling behind on our bills, but I'm starting to get a thick skin and I told him that I was not going to pay him back for the money I havent been able to pay him, he said he would not give me a bill but that he needs help. I feel guilty because I am the one who talked him into buying this house in the first place. My parents gave us 4,000 for a down payment and I gave him money to re-carpet the whole house, plus bought paint, curtains, red rock for the landscape and a wood burning stove for the family room, not to mention a whole lot more for HIS house. My son who is 18 works at the local grocery store from 11 pm to 7 am was sleeping and I told fiancee at 10 pm I was going to wake him at 10 pm and make him something to eat, and fiancee said" I baby him, to let him do for himself,he can make his own food, well my response was that I do all the housework and laundry for everyone, and I enjoy doing for my son that I may not have him around too much longer and he should worry about his own 16 year old son. Tonight was it for me, but I'm trapped here with no job. I am so unhappy and just dont know a way out. Finacee is going through a really tough time because his 16 year old son totaled 2 cars and got 2 tickets within 10 days, insurance has gone from 100.00 per month to almost 400.00 a month and he is not working to support his mistakes, everyone keeps bailing him out. His girlfriends grandmother bought him his 3rd car, and he is going to pay her back. I feel as though I'm being used for the money to help with his insurance payments. Now his has a third car and has only had his license for just over 2 mos. Sorry so long but what can I do??????? Any advice would help. Irish

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Irish, I don't have any advice to offer except hang on in there. I'm sure your finding this board right at this very moment when you need support was all part of the plan. We will all be here for you as much as we can and will help in any way we can.
(((((Huge Hugs))))) ~Carol~
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