Our Shadow Self

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Registered: 02-27-2004
Our Shadow Self
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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 3:25pm

We all have certain aspects of our character that we don't like and/or try to hide such as anger, nastiness, jealousy etc. Do you think that we should accept and love all aspects of ourselves even the less desireable ones or do you think that we should try and change these things?

Often we get so hung up on these things that we fail to see the good in ourselves and feel tremendous guilt and shame for the things we see as bad.

I know that I have one major nasty trait that I've never particularly noticed until quite recently. I had a karma reading done at the end of last year and this particular trait was a big element of my character in my life before this one, eventually getting me into serious trouble. Since this reading I have noticed just how often and in how many situations similar thoughts of behaving in this way occur to me and I have realised how this has always been a part of my character, though in this life I have only acted upon it once several years ago and would hope that I would never do so again.

I'm just not really sure if I should accept it as being a hang over from this previous life but not act upon it in this life and try to love it or if I should try to change the thoughts, which is what I have been trying to do, reminding myself that it is not a way I would wish to act.

Any thoughts anyone, please share.

~Carol~

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Sun, 08-28-2005 - 9:39am

My shadow self can be shy, judgmental (of herself), and has low self esteem.

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