Another Rejection Letter

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Another Rejection Letter
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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 3:56pm
I got another rejection letter today, I'm so bummed. I believe 2 incidents from my past 8 and 10 yrs ago is the reason. People make mistakes, and we should not be judged as people because of our mistakes, Right? I am finding it hard to have any faith and I'm afraid of my future. I was thinking of looking into volunteering somewhere to help me get out of this rut, and maybe people will see me for the good person I am and what a hard worker I am. I read all the posts everyday, and dont usually reply only because I feel like I cant really help, my mind is so confused with so many things going on and I would love to give encouragement and support, but I'm really having a hard time finding that, so I'm sorry to all of you for that. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Hugs to all.Irish

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 6:17pm

How are potential employers finding out about something that happened 8 or 10 years ago?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 6:37pm
Oh Hon, I'm so sorry!
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Registered: 10-07-2004
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 7:02pm
Hi, it was two misdemeanor charges for disorderly conduct that they find when doing background checks. I was divorced, out partying, stupid when I was younger. My work history is great, so I know it's not that. I called the courts today about getting that off my record and there is a form to fill out that will dismiss charges, but employers still can access the info, it will just say charges were dismissed. This was so long ago, I cant take it back. I am not perfect by any means but people do make mistakes. I just dont even want to apply anywhere it's getting depressing, and Im feeling embarrased and full of shame. I dont want to be looked upon as a bad person. I told my son today (he's 18), be careful what you do in life it will follow you wherever you go. My dad used to tell me that all the time, I wish I would have listened better. Is there hope for me? Irish
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 7:07pm
Often when things don't work out, it is because better things are coming.
I could see if someone lost a license in my field from
the disease of alcoholism or drugs
it could follow them, then the person would
have to sit down, say how good they were doing
and what they could offer and maybe have a person
watch them for a while when they do medications.
Selling themselves, asking for the chance to prove themselves.
I really don't know the
legalities of this.
Feel positive during interviews, role play with a friend,
read books or info on the computer about interviewing.
We are in times where it takes longer to get jobs, it may not
be you at all. My friend just got her masters in nursing. Been
out of a job for a long time. Keep your spirits up, you are doing great
and are a wonderful, bright, talented person. Love, Leila
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Registered: 10-07-2004
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 7:18pm
Thanks leila, You are soooo sweet. I too have to believe that something good will come of this. I almost did not post because i am ashamed, my feeling has changed since reading all your posts. You are all very helpful and will continue to keep you all updated. Thanks so much. Irish
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Registered: 03-30-2005
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 8:17pm
re: Another Rejection Lett
from: leilade
to: irish553 THANK YOU LEILADE IRA
date: 7:07 pm >
Often when things don't work out, it is because better things are coming.

good advice.the things that you would not do over again IS no longer you .As former employer I required four or five applications and interviews for jobs. And tested each.And informed them that management required several to apply and if not chosen not to feel disappointed because only one person can be chosen. And several may qualify. Now will let you know it takes up to 200 applications where it use to take about 50 to obtain some interviews for work. Here a friend went to library for assistance and applied in the county only to places that had over 50 employees. The librarian furnished the help and company names etc and type of work. NEXT VERY IMPORTANT YOU CAN MENTION (your choice) BUT NOT DWELL ON THE EVENTS AND THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER THAT PERSON. COMPANIES WANT RELIABLE PEOPLE AND THAT IS CHANGING IN THIS RESPECT AS COMPANIES ARE NO LONGER FAITHFUL TO EMPLOYES. FROM THE MID SEPT TILL END OF MARCH IS OFTEN BETTER OLPPORTUNITY AS TEMPORARY EMPLOYESS WHOS FAMILY ARE EMPLOYED THERE GO BACK TO SCHOOL LEAVEING OPENINGS TO BE FILLED. NOW A LITTLE SPIRITUAL COMFORT IF POSSABLE/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////iDIvinity of loveIn the mist of trouble you can be in peace and joy./////Within you comes forth to my mind the precious one that you are.do not accept yourself as in the past, Realize right now that you are a great treasure(no pride)///Keep the excellent spirit of being a child-son-daughter of the Most High///What you walk away from God will lead you ,(instruction).In which you will follow and determine the futhure you create,(Holy Spirit guidance). In closing God will treat you better than you will treat yourself.. /written by a href=mailto:irakrause@netzero.comirakrause@netzero.com/a
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 8:37pm
Keep posting. To add, when a hospital I loved working in closed, it took me 4 months to get a job. I did free lance work
for 4 months. Never used to be like that in nursing. if there is an opening in psyc/addiction, I could get in because of my 20 years experience. ( depending on the shift offered) if I tried to change to labor and delivery, no way. Like in sales, every no is closer to the yes. do your visualizations, prayers, home work. Tell them what you can offer them, use those words: I developed, implemented, wrote up the policy of blah blah. Just use buzz words with a great smile. tell them what a team player you are. Keep telling yourself you are what the work force and the world needs. Love, Leila
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Registered: 10-07-2004
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 9:02pm
Thank you irakrause and leila for the nice words. Everyone is helping me to see the light and I feel so blessed, I actually have tears in my eyes. On an interview I'm very outgoing and sell myself, on one interview I spoke about the misdemeanors and told them that I made a few mistakes and to please not judge me as a person for my past, that I am a good worker and to let me prove myself. I walked out feeling very confident. The interview following that was for a large company (oncology) that I felt went really well. I did not bring up the misdemeanors this time, it was on my application, and I was interviewed by 3 people on that one so I was kinda nervous to bring it up. When I fill out an application( along with my resume)I'm not going to lie, my feeling is as ira stated that people want dependable workers, so why does that get in the way? Could I be assuming that my past gets in the way? Leila, funny you mentioned OB/GYN, I worked in a local hospital OB/GYN ward for almost 7 years, I quit when I was going through a divorce, had joint custody of the kids and I did'nt want to be working weekends and holidays while I had my kids. I have always regretted quitting, I loved that job so much. That brings me to another question, I re-applied there at the same hospital via internet about a month ago, I had excellent reviews and they loved me there, so they havent called, should I pursue that further by calling or going there in person? I can't seem to get over the fact that I had those 2 misdemeanors, I hate to have to bring it up to future employers, nd like I said it's embarrasing even though I'm totally not that person I was in the past. Hugs and thanks to all of you for your help. Irish
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 11:40pm

Irish, are you volunteering the info about the misdemeanors or do the applications specifically ask about them?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 5:54am
I agree, I have only seen felonies. They are not even supposed to ask your age.
Love, Leila

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