Another Rejection Letter

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Another Rejection Letter
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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 3:56pm
I got another rejection letter today, I'm so bummed. I believe 2 incidents from my past 8 and 10 yrs ago is the reason. People make mistakes, and we should not be judged as people because of our mistakes, Right? I am finding it hard to have any faith and I'm afraid of my future. I was thinking of looking into volunteering somewhere to help me get out of this rut, and maybe people will see me for the good person I am and what a hard worker I am. I read all the posts everyday, and dont usually reply only because I feel like I cant really help, my mind is so confused with so many things going on and I would love to give encouragement and support, but I'm really having a hard time finding that, so I'm sorry to all of you for that. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Hugs to all.Irish
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Registered: 10-07-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 12:29pm
Almost every application I ever filled out was "Have you ever been convicted of a Felony or Misdemeanor, if yes give dates, details and outcome". Believe me I would never disclose info that would hurt me. I filled out one application in the last few months only asking about felonys. I would think that after 8 years anyway that it should not matter if I had a misdemeanor. Irish
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Registered: 08-14-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 12:34pm

It really does suck when that happens! People can change and I don't understand why employers cannot see that.


My uncle was arrested and put in prison 22 years ago for auto vehicle theft and vandalism. He made a mistake, he was young and stupid. He is now a great Christian man, happily married and a wonderful father and his worth ethic is unbelievable!!!


He has a hard time finding a "good" job because employers see that in his record and say absolutely NOT!! Why? It was 22 years ago! Has he ever been arrested since then? Um...........NO!!!


Really chaps a person's hide!!

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Registered: 02-27-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:52pm

Irish I remember about 15 years ago my dh was looking for a new job. At the time there was quite a lot of unemployment in the UK and although he was working he was looking for something else. Anyway at one interview he went to where there were two positions he was told by the interviewer that sometimes they had two or three good candidates who were equally qualified and had done equally well at interview and it was just a case of putting names in a hat because it was impossible to make a decision. He didn't get that job but his name was put forward to another department who later contacted him and asked him to go for an interview. Meanwhile one of the guys offered the original job didn't turn up when he was supposed to start and it ended up with dh being given the choice of which job he wanted.

It may be a similar situation with you, especially if competition is tough. Can you contact the company that has turned you down and speak to anyone and maybe find out where you went wrong or if you were just unlucky. Maybe even ask if the misdemeanors were an issue or not. Many employers in the UK now encourage that and in my experience are usually both helpful and honest.

~Carol~

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 4:39pm
Good idea Carol, I have actually thought about calling and finding out why I was not chosen. I may just do that, and I admit I will be a little nervous when I do call. I am trying to believe that everything happens for a reason, so I keep telling myself that something good will come along. Thanks for the input, and yes, it would be nice to hear the truth as it could be helpful in my search for a job. I can only learn from this. Irish
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Registered: 11-11-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:10pm

Irish! Listen to yourself. You just said you feel like you can't give any help because your mind is 'confused with so many things going on'. How is anyone else suppose to see what you cannot. You're fogging yourself up with your thoughts. Any one of us can tell you're a decent beautiful human being, but that's because we're here and you let us see the real you.
There's always going to be rejection in one dang form or another. That's part of the journey/test. Don't get down on yourself for past mistakes, the fact you acknowledge them as such means you wish to do better. You will. If God wanted you there, you would BE. In the meantime you're learning about yourself and what you want to become. Fear is a self fulfilling prophecy, it serves no purpose but to stimulate you in the right direction, leaving dust in its path.
Please don't be too hard on yourself! Re-cognize the wonderful soul you are and have patience, it is all going to work out just as God has it planned, there's no room for worry. Stay focused on the objective and you will draw the perfect situation to yourself.
Take Care, and please, feel free to inspire us all, we know you have it in you.

Betsy

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 11:50pm
charliesap, wow, thanks for opening my eyes, you are completely right on the money. I could not have said it better. Thank you so much. I know god does have a plan and I am recognizing my mistakes and I know I need to do that in order to move on. You're awesome, and to everyone, I am so happy for finding this board, it has done so much for me and gives me much to think about. I will make a complete effort to be a support for all of you thanks..Irish P.S. I read your profile, I grew up just outside of pittsburgh, go steelers.
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 10:47am

When I was last unemployed, I went at it like any good Exec Asst would, and made an Excel spreadsheet.


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Registered: 08-04-2004
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 11:05am

wow bink, that was encouraging. you so clearly demonstrated how god surely does work in mysterious ways. it's the getting through that's tough, but hanging in there and believing what you need will come your way can make all the difference.

peace

 

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 3:17pm
Thanks Bink, I think I need to pound the pavement a little harder. My embarrasment was getting in the way. I too almost cancelled my last interview because I didnt want to talk about my past, I went and it didnt work out but chalk that one up to experience. Something is out there waiting for me and I'm sure that someone will see my good qualities and what I can bring forth to the company. Hope everyone is having a great and relaxing weekend. Thanks SO much.. Irish
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Sun, 08-28-2005 - 9:58am

"Rejection" is a way for