Please Pray for Me...

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Please Pray for Me...
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:31am

...I keep losing people in my life who are close to me. I don't have any close members in my family other than one sister. My mother, whom I was very close to passed away 2 years ago. I'm not married, no children, and no prospects either.

I just feel so scared and alone that I can't sleep at night sometimes. It frightens me. How did I end up so alone I ask myself? I'm a good person with a big heart but all of the friends that came into my life ended up leaving me because I wouldn't let them take advantage of me anymore.

I'm just asking for your prayers and positive thoughts. It's been a rough life for the past 6 years but I'm still hanging in there.

Thank you so much.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 11:19am

My prayers go out to you. I will keep you in my thoughts.

I know how hard it is to be alone, as despite family and friends, I have often found myself feeling very lonely and wondering why.

Hopefully, you will connect with those worthy of your friendship and create a small circle of 'family' who you can rely on and share your life with. In the meantime, do not close yourself off - be sure to get out and get involved in activities and events that feed your soul, that help you to feel whole again. Going into a new friendship feeling 'needy' is not healthy either.

Hugs & Blessings

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 4:38pm
(((Hugs))) to you!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 7:15pm
hi there, how old are you? When older it is more
common to lose people thru death. One good thing
about feeling empty is there is the space to fill in with the new.
Life is about change, people coming and going. The more complete we are
and the better our perspective is on death, that there is no death etc
the better we can manage the changes and losses. Then there is grieving
that is inevitable, ya gotta get thru grief to move on. I am not sure where you are
in all of this. I have has lots of losses too, I can understand,
I am OK today. it heals. Much love and hugs, Leila
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Registered: 12-31-2003
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 11:51am

Hi There,

I just read your post today for the first time and wanted to reach out to you. I see you have not replied to any of the other posts. Please do. That may be one of the first steps to connecting with others. I am sorry for your losses, and as one poster stated, you can make a family of friends...true friends. They may not come into your life today (or maybe they will, who knows) but there are people out there who will love you as family. Remember, what has already been suggested...get involved in activities and avoid seeming needy. And write back so we know how you are doing.

Pen

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 12:50pm

Hang in there. I too am alone. I lost my mother a month ago, my father 2 years ago. My siblings only make me feel bad about myself. I have one lone connection 800 miles away who is a dear friend, but for the rest I am living alone with no real connections where I recently moved to. I know I created this and also know it serves a purpose. I find when I am in a long period of pain or loss on the other side is usually an even higher spiritual connection than my last. Life is not static. I hate the downs and love the ups. That’s life. Chin up girl and find who it is you are and where you are supposed to go. I travel with you in spirit.

Peace

 

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Registered: 09-10-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 7:03pm
I first encouage you to not be so rough on yourself. I agree about getting out and about to meet others. It is hard to be alone, but only you can change that. (big hugs) Also, I village is a wonderful place to start long lasting friendships. You can find support groups here and great caring women who are in your shoes and understand. You are never alone here. I will always keep you in my Prayers and look forward to getting to know you.
Peace & Blessings,
Rhonda
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Fri, 09-16-2005 - 5:26pm

Also, I village is a wonderful place to start long lasting friendships.