Gargoyles, Glasses and Gossip .. *m

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Gargoyles, Glasses and Gossip .. *m
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:09am

Hi, gang ..


On the eve of my 44th birthday, I find I'm just as sensitive to name calling as I ever was.  I work in a manufacturing area (200 + people).  I work where anything is food/fodder for those bored people breaking together.  I have friends who'll tell me if I'm part of discussion.  (I'm still up in the air on whether I can take this or not.)  One of my male friends passed on to me that I was part of a "discussion" going on.  I've been wearing my handy, trusty "cokes" until my contacts came in.  As long as I could see, that shouldn't be a problem, right?  This friend is kind of blunt, so he stated one of the sentences was I "looked like a gargoyle".  Hmmm ... OK, fine.  I'm not the prettiest thing on the planet with my glasses.  Next, I am freespirited and outgoing, but there are times my personality is misconstrued.  I smile, I don't always wear what's considered "modest" to the masses.  Should I wear clothing  all the way up to my chin?  Somehow, I don't think that would help since I am rather curvy!  I flirt a little.  Heck, I am married!  I break by myself or with 1- 2 people.  (and that's not every day!  I enjoy my company and solitude!)   An unnamed male stated he took me out to lunch ... for dessert! Knowing this isn't true didn't stop the anger and the tears.  I'm aware jealously comes from different avenues, and I know I'm not any different from anyone other woman whose "attributes" are compared with other.  I guess it's the fact that a friend had knowledge.  I'm still mad and hurt by it.  Yes, I'll take this hurt and make positive energy of it.  I'll focus it on my school work (another negative where I should be prepared to work until I drop dead!)  Grumble, grumble .. fuss, fuss. 


Here, I vented (safely) to my online family and I still feel the tears!  I could sure use some prayers so I can direct this into a positive situation.  This too shall pass, thand the Lord!  I can only get stronger.


Thanks.





Edited 9/30/2005 3:53 pm ET ET by cl-theladycee

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:14am

{{{{{CeeCee}}}} I will keep you in my thoughts today.

I think people are jealous of people who are just open and friendly, and good looking to boot! It's awful that someone would start a rumor like that about you - it brings into question your integrity and that's not for anyone to do except yourself. I'd be hard pressed not to call that person to the mat and let them have it. I hope they stub thier toe this morning (I know that's not right, but at least it's not a really bad wish).

You know what to do: You hold you head up high and go about your day. You KNOW who you are and you don't need a room full of sharks to validate you or your integrity.

Many hugs~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 3:58pm
(((Hugs))) Sweetie!!
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 4:26pm

(small smile)

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 5:34pm

Cee Cee, that's sexual harassment and should not be tolerated at any level in the workplace.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 6:39pm

but shouldn't we act like grown ups?


Yes, we should.

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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 7:09pm

Right on Bink! This, CeeCee, is not acceptable. Get your sweet voluptuous patooty straight to the HR Office and report this obnoxious ass. You have rights and a right to save another poor soul from this type of harrassment. DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING PERSONAL! Save your tears for when he gets reprimanded or fired.

Love,
Betsy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:34pm
Hi sweetie, yup, sexual harrassment,
file it, he won't dare let that happen again.
he wants a job for sure without these
things on his reputation. Happy, B'day,
you young gorgeous thing. Forgive them,
what do they know, not much to act like that.
How unhappy people are to call names etc
so childish. Hey, the day i couldn't find my
reading glasses, I was called helen Keller. I wear
hearing aides. It cracked me up. You are probably
the sexiest looking gargoyle they ever met.
Love ya, leila
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Registered: 08-29-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:39pm
Happy early birthday *hugs* , I shall definitely pray that you feel better and that you don't let what people say upset you too much. And for the people who call you names and junk , you know they are just jealous!
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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 11:57am

Why do people have to try to tear down someone just because they're intimidated, or that the person is a bit different than they are?! Sometimes it's that men can't handle a strong woman in charge of herself and her life. KWIM? So they try to tear you down to size with sexual lies or innuendos. Women can feel resentful of a woman who is strong and confident in being herself. It's an effort to make you feel LESS, so they can feel better about themselves. You are a reminder that they don't have to be the way they are, that there ARE other choices. And they don't like that. Even understanding this, it DOES hurt when people do these things out of their own insecurities and self-hate.

Just sending you more hugs. I know you are a warrior woman and you won't let this loser behavior define who you are.

And don't let this spoil your celebration of your birthday and your life! ;)) Those creeps aren't worth it.

Hugs,
Gypsy




Edited 9/30/2005 12:00 pm ET ET by gypsywolfwoman


Blessings,

Gypsy

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 3:24pm

Bink,


Of course, you're right!

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