Some thoughts on forgiveness...
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| Thu, 10-27-2005 - 5:51pm |
This is probably old news for you but I think it bears repeating and reminding the board that forgiveness is NOT about the other person. It has nothing to do with forgetting what was done or said, or them deserving it, or whether you will be hurt again.
It is as simple (and as hard) as being about YOU releasing yourself from anger and resentments from people or their deeds so that YOU can move on with your life. Since we can't undo things, or unsay them, forgiveness becomes about the only eraser or rewind button we have in life.
Do you need to forgive someone of an old hurt you are carrying around? Do you need to ask someone to forgive you? Do you need to forgive yourself for some things?
Struggle will be inevitable, but suffering is optional.
"Bear ye one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ." Gal. 6:2
"Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me." Matt. 25:40

Thanks. In fact, I DO have to forgive my sister for the many hurts she has thrown my way. It is impeding my happiness and ability to move on without dragging that around with me. I actually have contacted a counselor to help me put some things behind me, including this issue.
Your post was a reminder to me that forgiveness is about me, not my sister. She is who she is and there is nothing I can do about her and her behavior, but I can certainly do something about mine. I have to remember that I am a good person, despite her attitudes and I can't let it get me down, which it has.
Thanks.
A good reminder.