A Little Update

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Registered: 08-29-2005
A Little Update
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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 8:00pm

Hi there everyone , it's Leah again*waves*. I noticed my original thread was deleted and I found out it was because of posting links to other websites and also because I posted a link of a uploaded photo of my face , sorry about that people I honestly didn't know that was against the rules here ^_^;;. So here's a little update on me , for the most part I've been feeling alright until today , I went to the financial aid office to find out when the rest of my student loan money will be released. Much to my surprise , I found out that I was entitled to 1000 dollars less than expected because the student loan office had checked into my personal records and found that I had supposedly made 5200 in income when I haven't had a job in a little while. I called home and told mom what the situation was and when I came home we figured out what the reason for this was. As I had said in my older thread about what brought me here(which has been a great thing) , my father had taken saving bonds from me and chashed all of them and forged my signature to do so. The 5200 dollars was the amount from the bonds collecting interest. So the financial aid office told me this and I guess they think that I've been lying about needing a student loan and I'm so worried that I might get into trouble for this and even worse this might affect me from doing things like getting a house or a loan for something important. So I talked this over with everyone and decided that if I lose out then I will take my father to court over the bonds. And to tell you guys the truth , will all that has happened with my parents , I could really , really careless if he were found guilty and had to go to jail. If I lose out on my student loan , the plan that I was steadily working out in order to move out of my mother and stepfather's home will go to pieces and from what I've said about the way they intereact(my mom is willing to let him get away with anything , the guy once said that I'm aspiring to be some kind of a slut and to this day she's never said anything to him about this) , I know that I need to leave as soon as possible. Once again I have to ask the question , 1. If there is a God , why isn't he/she/it allowing these things to happen? And 2. Could I have possibly done something now or in a past life for things to turn this way? I've noticed that the stable and calm moments in my life are not very long and are immediately followed by ones that are tragic like this one. I know I've been working my damdest at school so that I can make something and do something with my life. Hell afte almost becoming an athiest about I month ago I dusted off my bible and started to read through it and you know what it made me feel so calm. Everything that was bothering me went away , I wasn't so sad all the time , I didn't feel physically sick , hate the way I look , feel convinved that I was so unattractive and that I would certainly die alone. I know for most 20 year olds stuff like this doesn't go through their heads but I guess I'm just "unique" like that :p! But now once again everything I worked hard on goes to hell , it's obvious that I'm either being punished for something terrible that I must have done to my parents. Nobody would run off with a girl's college fund unless she did something really , you're-an-evil-little-bitch horrible right? And my mother wouldn't allow some guy that she met ages ago , who was her "first" and feels eternally in debt to , talk to and treat me any way unless I deserved it right? And even better and time I actually speak up , I'm told I'm crazy/childish/stuck up/holier than thou and all kinds of more "colourful" things.

And what I love the most about this news about my finances is that it's 24 hours before I have a math test (luckily I emailed the professor asking if I could write it on another date), isn't just lovely how these things always have to happen when you're always in a stressful situation? Today mom said that "everyone who does a wrong will get theirs in the end" and coming from her , I wasn't too sure wether to believe it or laugh. Don't get me wrong my parents DO have good points but they have more bad ones than the good and somewhere inside of me I do care for them(my mother a little more than my father)...but I don't know. I guess I'll just keep praying that somehow this will all end , I'll move out finally and things will work out with my student loan or the bonds...I really hope I don't get into trouble D:!.

On a lighter note my art has improved( and if you'd like to see the kind of things I draw , I have the link to my artsite in my profile :)! The place even has a photo of me looking all bored :p.) , I'm not sure if it was the bible reading or just being relaxed , and drawing and playing music always perk me up so as soon as my headache from crying and yelling goes away I might go and do that. Second I'm doing pretty well in school , hopefully I'll average B's in things and most of all I'm doing pretty well in my worst subjecr , math(such a shame that you need math for science , why can't we just say "the guy was infected by bacteria , 'nuff said!" we don't need an EXACT number :p!) and with the art , school , working out in the college gym my confidence is slowly coming back so that's why I'm more angry about this news because I really don't want anybody to ruing my positive streak and I want the streak to last. Also I saw my ex a little while ago and we talked for about an hour and he apologized for all the stuff he said and did. Now I hope he is genuinely storry isn't just saying that because he is desperate and things that he thinks that I would go to him at the drop of a hat. I'm lonely and everything but not stupid...I hope. Now sure where that will lead but if we could be friends I'd be happy and whatever happens happens.

Sorry for writing another really long post , I don't know why but when I'm upset or in a creative mood I can just write these things and draw amazing art that normally I'd struggle to make. I hope all the American users enjoy their thanksgiving and all that turkey and has a safe holiday!

-Leah

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Registered: 03-30-2005
In reply to: tenjou
Sat, 12-03-2005 - 12:51am
Read the replies and you shoul,d notify the Govt as to investigate where and how the bonds were cashed in. As the ones who cashed the bonds are responsable for the proper identification of those cashing them and are thus liable. Do not give up I worked fora a few years then started coledge (Univ Of Buffalo) cost me to much ,was in Naval reserve and while in college drafted into Army (could have refused being in college and also in Naval Reserve) however I accepted the call to duty and when time completed the US Govt GI bill help me finish college. and graduated going on 30 years of age. Ended up one of the top 5 and was offered to be a professor, also several us were offered by US GOVT to learn to be hospital administrators,(turned it down) and worked in Hospitals,industry,retail etc ( during life time truned down executive positions in New Jersey ,and two offers in ERochester ,New York, etc and other oportunities (reason wife from here and did not want to disturb her , Praying for you....by irakrause@netzero.com in the mist of trouble you can be in
peace and joy./////Within you comes forth to my mind the precious one that you
are.do not accept yourself as in the past, Realize right now that you are a
great treasure(no pride)///Keep the excellent spirit of being a
child-son-daughter of the Most High///What you walk away from God will lead you
,(instruction).In which you will follow and determine the futhure you
create,(Holy Spirit guidance). In closing God will treat you better than you
will treat yourself written by ira krause
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In reply to: tenjou
Sat, 12-03-2005 - 10:44am
First of all you need to take a bow for going to school and doing all the things on your own , it's really inspiring to hear stories like that and tells me(or any young person) that if they really put their heart , mind and soul into the work they can make it and I really hope I do. As for my bonds I'm looking into that now , I had called the office in charge of canada savings bonds and they preformed an investigation into that but it failed so I'll try again. Thank you for your reply.
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In reply to: tenjou
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 1:04am
Thank you for your reply. and in as much as there is great concern for your precious heart and being I would like to have you go to Religion Debate message board here on Village and read under Human and MAN No. 17,18,19,12,14,8,7,5, and also my profile and if you want can email much more. Being born in a very corrupt world there are certain spirits that bccome attached to us that do not belong to the real you. And in so realizing this we no longer have to accept them (some of us may need help . We also have the right to ask the Creator to restore all that has been taken from us at the same time it is important not to hate the individuals which it is hard for us to forgive. The forgivng is for our benefit (which I can explain in detail) and the ones still are to be dealt with by the Creator (they are not off the hook,so to speak) at the same time we are allowed to shut the door in their face. There are avery few that do not want to hear anymore from me(removed there names from my address list). However I write about 74 people who do not object, even among those there are a few special ones that receive special attention. may peace and comfort be within you and be a companion in truth and share in the righteous spirit. with prayers and concern from imperfect Ira Krause
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Registered: 12-23-2003
In reply to: tenjou
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 10:19am

Hi, Leah ..


It's wild about your dad, but honey, you don't have to do or be "wrong" for bad things to happen.

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In reply to: tenjou
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 10:38am
Thank you everyone for all your helpful and inspiring comments!
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In reply to: tenjou
Sat, 12-10-2005 - 8:51pm

And yet another little update , right now I am studying for my exams which are next week , had a fight(more like was yelled at) with my stepfather , while leaving at school around 5:40 a.m. because he claimed I was trying to limit what he was "allowed" to say in the house , so he isn't really saying anything to me , or looking at me , mom wants me to apologize for it(big surprise), my ex doesn't talk to me at all anymore , this could be a good thing though , then I can spend even more time on the studies , friends and my hoobies. And on the other side , I've been hanging around with this other guy who is in most of my classes and he seems to like me a lot , and get this , this school friend's birthday is one day before my ex's...I dunno that might not be too good. On a brighter note I'm all ready for christmas , it snowed early(I love snow) and a few days ago , I went shopping and for the first time in ages I went and spoiled myself on...PYJAMAS(okay not anything to fancy , but it's something :D!). Well that's about it , I wish everyone a happy and safe christmas and good luck to anyone doing exams.

-Leah

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In reply to: tenjou
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:19pm
Just out of curiosity , how many people here belive in the theory that a girl's relationship with her father has a direct impact with her relationship with men(or depending on your preference) with women? And if there is some influence , can a person change the way they interact with others? Or are they doomed to only having a certain kind of relationship?
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Registered: 04-22-2003
In reply to: tenjou
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 10:22pm

You aren't doomed to repeat the scenario, but you may be prone to it.


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In reply to: tenjou
Sun, 01-01-2006 - 3:30pm
Sorry I haven't been around for a while , I just want to wish everyone a happy new year :D!
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Registered: 09-20-2003
In reply to: tenjou
Sun, 01-01-2006 - 7:33pm

>>>how many people here belive in the theory that a girl's relationship with her father has a direct impact with her relationship with men(or depending on your preference) with women?<<<
--I believe that my relationship with my father has an impact on my relationship with men. There are certain qualities that my father brought to my childhood that I've noticed I am coveting in an adult relationship. However, I think my father is an awesome individual, so having a man in my life that had some of the qualities my father possesses, to me, is a very positive attribute.

>>>And if there is some influence , can a person change the way they interact with others? Or are they doomed to only having a certain kind of relationship?<<<
--Yes, I believe that a person can change the way they interact with other people and are not "doomed" to one type of relationship based on the influence of the father. However, the person must recognize the influence and what it means in their life. That way they can make the changes they deem appropriate for a more healthy relationship with another person.

I really hope this makes sense.
Brightest Blessings,
Annika

Brightest Blessings, Annika