Being good to yourself .. *m
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| Sun, 11-27-2005 - 12:19pm |
I've always wanted others to respect me, to show me how good a person he/she thought I was. Oh, I thought of others. I feel I should treat those the same way I wanted to be treated. But, I wanted others to do it like I wanted them to show me. This sets me up for a lot of disappointments and bitterness. I wore this like a badge of honor when in truth, I was a brat!
Why should I leave my love of myself for others to discover?
I have a lot of good qualities about myself that I can celebrate. I buy myself books. I excercise. I try to eat better. I listen to my inner voice. I show love to my sons and my pets like I want to. I'm an earth mother and I use it when it's necessary. When one of my sisters come in my house complaining, I'm able to tell her to leave it outside on the porch. Just because someone doesn't like how I do something, doesn't mean he/she is right. It takes a stronger stand of selfcare to counter the outside negativity of others. Sometimes, my personal honesty is a threat to someone else, though I don't see how! If I need to take a stand, I don't have to be loud. Persistent, yes! Loud? I don't care to.
See the beauty in yourself. It's there for you to live, to be, to discover!
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What have you done good for yourself??




I agree with your wisdom here. ;)) It's a lifelong journey, even "maturation" to arrive at this realization that no one has the right to define who we are. Except ourselves! :D It's difficult to "hold out" and be true to ourselves because our society conditions us, especially females, to be all things to all people. To always help or fix or support others in their struggles. We are also conditioned that there's always something wrong with us, that we don't measure up. We need breast implants or better whitener for our teeth, or the right hair color product, or makeup or weight or clothes. All outward superficial characteristics that, if given too much priority, leaves us empty and broken inside.
I have learned valuable lessons to remove emotional vampires from my life, to allow people personal responsibility for solving their own problems (I don't need to fix other people's lives; that's their jobs!), and to look after myself and ask and expect what I need from people and from life. ;) I don't do it enough or consistently, but I am working on it. :P
Gypsy
Blessings,
Gypsy
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