QotW - What are you afraid of?

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QotW - What are you afraid of?
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Sun, 03-05-2006 - 9:13pm

Fear is a natural part of being human.  It might be something physical, emotional or spiritual, but unless you have transcended the mortal body, you are probably afraid of something.  What is it?


I am afraid of dark water, especially moving or deep water.  And I am afraid of heights, but I love to fly.  I've tried to meditate myself out of these fears, but nothing has worked, so I simply try to avoid them.  I'm not crazy about boating and I gave up swimming a long time ago! 


I used to be afraid of speaking out in public, but now I really enjoy it, and I'm much better at accepting the existence of garden snakes in my yard!


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Registered: 03-14-2004
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:14am

Way to Kiss Butt!

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself.You may not be perfect, but you are all You've got to work with.

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 11:23am

I don't like the idea of airing ones fears, as then you potentially give control away and make it possible for one to manipulate another...

pretty obvious fear here-isn't it??? HA! gave myself away!!!

tavi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 11:35am

Sorry Bink.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 12:22pm
How, tavi??? Love, Leila
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Registered: 12-20-2005
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 2:27pm

how I gave myself away? Simply by not wanting to answer the question, I answered it. Having someone else control me through manipulation (hence not wanting to air fears because then someone could use those fears I have to exploit me)

I guess I have major trust issues! HA!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 6:26pm
I don't see that happening here. so, it must be hard for you to be yourself with people in general, for fear they will know you ( the wonderful you) hehe. Love, leila
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Registered: 12-20-2005
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 10:25am
Sad to say, I have had many negative experiences where I have allowed the manipulation to happen (I have to take responsibility for it, cause someone can't do it to you unless you let them) for long periods of time. I have a sacrificial personality-meaning that I give up myself freely for anothers wants and needs, fore-going my own wants and needs. It is something I am working on at the moment, but years of being destroyed by people I loved... well, it's gonna take a while to get myself back. And believe it or not, I am tons better than I was 10 years ago! Still have many trust issues tho!
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Registered: 03-09-2001
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 2:35pm

At 59, my greatest fears are losing my mental capacities and ability to communicate with Ahlzeimer's or some other mind numbing disease. And physical infirmity. I want to die before all that happens to me. I don't want to be "warehoused." In earlier years, I was afraid of being alone -- now I cling to my solitude. ;)) I was afraid to speak up if I had a differing opinion -- too worried that someone, anyone, "wouldn't like me." I have gotten over that, for the most part. I do have some fear of heights, and I have found as I get older, I take less risks out of my comfort zone of existence.

Gypsy



Blessings,

Gypsy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 6:00pm
wonderful that you are gaining on your abilities and have insight. Love, Leila
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Registered: 02-22-2006
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 9:31am

"I was afraid to speak up if I had a differing opinion -- too worried that someone, anyone, "wouldn't like me.""

Boy, can I relate to that! I used to have the "nice" disease, or the whole doormat thing going on. Being the mother of two thriving, very self assure children has helped me kick that habit, and so has doing some things for myself in the last couple of years, that include a new career path, that helps put life in amazingly clear perspective on most days. Life is precious, and meaningful, and may the BS, anything that clouds insight, and truth, drop away and leave me out of it. :)

I hear your concern regarding the health scares, and raise you three big hugs. I read a good article the other day, that suggested we try something, just a little something new every month. Small steps can make an amazing difference in attitude, reduction of anxiety, and increase feelings of *happiness*. My greatest fear involves dying young (I'm 40) and leaving my precious girls behind. Understanding some of where that fear comes from in my self, helps a great deal. I had a mom who was a "serial abandoner", and I remember too well some days what it felt like to be left behind. But, this life comes with no promises for the next day. We live, we love, and experience the rainy days, too. Then the sun comes out again.

{{{{{Hugs}}}}}
Susan

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