Do you discuss your path w/ your parents

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Do you discuss your path w/ your parents
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Sun, 04-23-2006 - 12:16am

No particular reason for asking, just wondering how much others discuss their paths and spiritual leanings with their parents.  Especially those who have or are questioning the religions/traditions of their upbring.


I personally never really discussed my beliefs with my parents until a couple years ago when Dad (who's a high-ranking Mason) handed me The DaVinci Code saying 'you need to read this.'  That really opened the lines of communication, especially between Mom and me.


 




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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 9:31am

I never asked my parents why they didn't go. We lived on a farm and they were pretty busy and did not make the time. My Dad is not into religeon or church at all. My Mom could be if she had the desire, she believes in God and prayer but takes it no further.

I am moving this summer so need to start looking for a new church. I haven't been going regularly as an adult and feel like I should be ;-)

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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 12:05pm

Actually I can talk to my parents about spiritual things. They aren't the problem, it's my dh that I have a very difficult time with. My parents, especially my mom, have become very open-minded about things, although they weren't always that way.

Sarah

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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 5:31pm

I've seen the same thing with my parents.

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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 8:36pm

I can't really ~~ as Dad died in '93 and Mom in '95.

I wish I could discuss how I feel about things w/ my Dad, I've a feeling he would really be interested in the journey I've taken, the questions I've had, and how I'm seeking my own answers rather than just accepting other's answers because it's what others say I *should* do . . . he always felt that Faith was a very personal thing. When my sisters got on a kick of trying to "save" him, he said "How can you ~ or anyone ~ truly know what I believe? No one knows what's inside of me ~ except for me and God." I thought that would have been enough for them . . . but . . .

Now my two remaining sisters want to "save" me . . . and I want to give my father's answer "How can you know what I think or feel ~ who are you to say that what I feel is right or wrong?" *sigh* Not long ago one of my sisters was talking about "that left-wing rabble" and I just said "Uhhhh, Sis, *I* am that left wing rabble!" ~ fortunetly she let it alone and changed the subject.

I truly wish my eldest sister was still around! Although it was always her desire that I see things as she did, she was willing to listen to me and to give me the room I needed to explore. She knew me probably better than anyone else ever has. She told me once, "You have the heart of a true believer, regardless of what you call it, and God know his own." (or Her own??!?) That meant a great deal to me.

Of my two remaining sisters, one will at least listen some and is willing to let me journey . . . w/ the other it's best just to skirt around the isssue . . . .

Blessings to ALL, "M"

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Wed, 04-26-2006 - 4:53pm
I would if I could. they are not alive as humans. Dad would have thought I was going against judiasm, mother would have thought I was nuts and just smiled, unless life throught the years would have given them some experiences to see things differently. If they were alive, it might be easier to keep quiet!!!!!!!!!
Now with my kids, I can talk more openly with 2 sons, my middle son and DIL probably think I am a little nuts. I do have cousins like me and some are psychic. One reads movie stars yearly. Love, leila

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