How important is it to you...

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 1:23pm

How important is it to you that your spouse / significant other share your beliefs? 


Many of us have voiced over the years how we have found paths in different directions than our parents pointed us.   Are your children, if you have them, following the path you chose for them?


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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 2:09pm

It is very important to me that my husband at least believe in God and Jesus Christ. He does, and we worship together, and all is well. We don't have kids yet, so who knows how that will go.

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 3:12pm

Great question Bink!

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 4:03pm

My ex husband never went to Church as a child or an adult and doesn't really have any beliefs, so when I started dating after my divorce I knew I had to marry someone that a)didn't drink and b) was a Christian.

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 4:55pm

We married in a church so sharing our belief is very important to our marriage. It gets us through the rough spots and we work for the same goal.


I feel bad for those who can't share their beliefs.

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 5:48pm

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It's not vital to me as long as he doesn't try to change or interfere or make fun of mine. I like being on my own with my spirituality and thinking through my beliefs. The good news, for me anyway, is that he likes to think them through with me too so I have a sounding board. Even though it's not vital to me or him or our relationship, we do have many of the same beliefs and we do like to debate, hash, re-hash, discuss and brainstorm our beliefs. It's fun for us.

I don't have kids.

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 6:27pm

I have my beliefs and dh never really

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 9:40pm

Hi Bink! Hi Jodi!


For me what's important is that we respect each other's beliefs and values, and that we don't clash over them.


A couple of years ago I was seriously interested in someone. That summer we talked a lot about relationships, marriage (in general), divorce, kids, kids and religion. We were of different religions. As we got talking we realized that though we respected each other's beliefs, he would want his children to follow him whilst I would prefer that they decide themselves. We realized how each felt strongly about our respective positions, and that this was only one of the elemental values in which we stood on different grounds. So we decided not to pursue a romantic relationship.


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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 12:13am
no spouse here...so not at all important.

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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 2:45am
It was important for my husband and I that the person we marrry be a member of our religion. We also plan on our future children being raised in our religion, but they do have their free agency, so should they decide to follow a different path, we will try to respect it.


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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 8:49am
It's very important that my spouse shares my/our beliefs and faith. And he does...we go to different churches because my dh has a different path than mine, but we do worship together. Very important to me!!

 



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