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GOD WILLING
| Mon, 07-17-2006 - 10:37am |
HI! Im relatively new here and I am sort of between boards. I am a recently cheated on wife but, I have God issues. So, I wanted to post a quiestion here because the other board dosnt really understand where Im coming from. I am rebuilding my marriage, my husband was unfaithful and now here I am. Im afraid Im pouring my life into a marriage and a man that eventually wont want me. I have lost precious time with my son and have lost days due to depression because of this and it kills me since I no the importance of life and I live for each day. I love God so much and I never once blamed him or turned away, I actually thank him everynight for this beautiful colison that is my life and while I never would of excepted Id be here I wouldnt change it. I live with somedays agonizing heart break and the insecurity is destroying me, I cant handle this rollercoaster anymore and I pray God will make me normal again. So can anyone recommend some books for me and advice. Please dont think Im suicidal Im not, I love God, and my son to much to quit. Im just so insecure and its robbing me of happiness.

I may be barking up the wrong tree, but if he happens to be a drinker, alanon meetings would be perfect for you.
This is a joint thing, getting help for the 2 of you. Do something mice for yourself today. Love, Leila
Thanks again for your reply!!
It's difficult to recover from betrayal in a marriage or anywhere else, and I respect your effort to put the marriage back together.
I agree that you should get pastoral help and/or
counseling. It's just too hard to do it alone.
The fear and doubt you have can be conquered; it
just takes time and patience and alot of prayer.
I have a friend who found out 2 months ago that
her husband of 9 years was doing the same thing.
But she decided to press on, and they sought both
pastoral care and marriage counseling and are doing
fine now.
Not that it was so easy...they had to start from
scratch those first couple of weeks and "rebuild"
but as the days and weeks went by the pain
disappeared.
You have not betrayed God in any way. He is right
there beside you, waiting for you to turn it all
over to him.
Please keep us posted; we really do care.
Hugs,
Cindy
~*~ Fear tolerated, is faith contaminated.... ~*~
~*~ Aloha to all .... ~*~
(((hugs))) I, too, can feel your pain in your post ~~~ partly because I've lived it . . . therefore I know I'm not likely to be fully object in my reply ~ yet I felt compelled to write.
I agree that working through this alone makes it all the more difficult, and goodness knows it's difficult enough, so I would *highly* reccommend counseling! Do this together (if staying together is what the two of you have decided upon) . . . alone only if he really is not willing to attend with you . . . but together really is best.
I would also reccommend a good healthy diet and excersize program for you (to help minimize the effects of the stress/anxiety/depression so as to reduce mood swings).
Journaling helps (totally uncensored is best). Also, as strange as it may sound, one of the very best things I did for myself during the initial pain was I wrote a letter (PLEASE note that at no point in time did I EVER intend to send said letter, I ONLY wrote it to get my emotions OUT) to "her"!! I wrote of my pain, anger, fear . . . . I cried, I cursed . . . I poured my heart and soul out . . . and then (and this is the most important part!) I very ceremoniously BURNED it!!!! No one ever read it, no one ever knew, it was just for me ~ for my sanity . . . . . but I could not deny that those feelings were there and I had to get them out.
Most importantly I reccommend do ALL that you can for YOU!! Love your SELF as much as you possibly can. Be strong!
MUCH Love, HUGE {{{{{{Hugs}}}}}, and Many Blessings to you, "M"