opposition in marriag/life: divorce?

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opposition in marriag/life: divorce?
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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:32am

Hello.


I'm new to this particular forum.  Desperately seeking advice.


I'm a new christ centered christian: former catholic; recently recieved a new baptisim for spritual rebirth.


For a long time in my marriage I have wanted to try other churches knowing in the back of my mind that this could "rock the boat" so badly in my marriage- that it could very well end it.  Well, I think it's happenening.  I also have to say that I've been battleing depression due to job loss and a spiral of other things- and since I've had my "rebirth" I have been so into Jesus, and God- and I want to follow Jesus and really truly center my life around following him.  Since my rebirth: I have found my need for anti-depressants significantly less, so i've backed off on them (not off completely but taking a significantly lesser dose- and am off the other two meds I was on), have felt no ill effects.


My husband came to me yesterday, after talking to his therapist and told me that she said to "demand that I take my meds, and demand I see a therapist."  Boy did that set me off.  Our whole marriage has involved him "parenting me".  I've called him on it several times- and all he has to say is "I wasn't trying to"- but he was.  Other people around me also- who aren't christian- or who haven't recieved the gift of jesus- are also trying to tell me not to get off my meds.  Of course they (doctors) are going to say that.


Anyway, I have no good reason to divorce him until now.  I'm fed up.  And now we have a religeous battle going on- and our children are about to get in the middle of it.  I told him yesterday- that I'll go.  I'll step out, and he can have the kids and raise them as he sees fit.  It kills me even bringing that up, but I'm not about to fight like that.


Do any of you have advice?  I really don't have anywhere else to go- I don't have a home church yet as I was baptised at my mothers' church while on a personal retreat down in AZ at her place.  I don't have any other "christ centered family members- or other christian family members for that matter, and even if I did they would all be against divorce.


Also, I've been reflecting on a message from our wedding "What god has brought together, let no man take apart"- well what if it's religeon that's in the way? 


 


t.H.

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 5:27pm