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| Wed, 11-08-2006 - 3:30am |
Hello I would like to introduce myself. My name is shiree and I am 22 years old currently stationed overseas right now. I know that this (the lord) should have been the first place I came to instead of the last but nonetheless I am here. I got married last year after knowing my husband a month and a half. We are both deployed right now. I dont feel that I am in love with him anymore and I am not happy with him. I am not here to talk about the bad things that he has done I am here to vent my sins. I have committed adultery. I am not proud of this. I am dealing with a struggle everyday. Now I have the weight of the world on my shoulders with my husband now wanting to work it out and me not wanting to. and this 3rd person wanting to be with me. I want to be happy but I need to repent because I feel soo low and even if I went back to my husband and things worked out I wouldnt be able to live with the guilt of cheating on him. I just ask for kind words, if any, and some spiritual advice. Thank you.

Hi Shiree.
We have some things in common. I married a military man after knowing him for 6-8 weeks. He deployed a week later. I hear lots of stories about what happens during a deployment, but I try to believe that my man doesn't. It's hard.
This board isn't so much a confessional, but it is great for support. We come from all faiths. I'm Unitarian. What denomination are you? There are a lot of people no this board who are not Judeo-Christian, I guess that I would be one of them as Unitarian Universalism isn't exactly a traditional Christian faith. Everyone is so nice! I'm sure when they wake up and get online you'll get a great welcome!!
Is there a chance that your CO knows about this in any way? Is there a chance that you'll be reprimanded for it? For the sake of your military career and/or honorable discharge, I would break off the affair for at least the rest of your deployment.
I had to face the fact eventually that I didn't really and truly know who I was marrying. Thankfully, we found out when he got home that we really do love each other. We've been through 3 deployments now and are coming up on the fourth--crossing my fingers that he is not going!! Marriage, even with someone you've known your entire life, is HARD. You have to want to be married. You have to want to be married to that person. If that's not there, then maybe you shouldn't be married. What's that thing that made you want to marry him in the first place?
Is asking a hiatus from both men for the remainder of the deployment possible??
Welcome to the board, Shiree.
Take care.
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