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| Thu, 12-14-2006 - 6:34pm |
Computers_______ I meant to send a note to my youngest son, I pressed the reply and sent it to my DIL by huge mistake and habit. luckily I did not say look what the bitch wrote. i said, " I got this note from Heidi, I had not confirmed this date, I am so worried about christmas" thank you God, that is all I said.
i called her and left a message that she would get a note I sent to my OTHER son for support and maybe things happen for a reason, we need to resolve this and I am very upset and will call later. I forgot she had jury duty, I left another message for her to call me tonight when she had time or I will call her 10AM tomorrow.
I am not upset that anyone can be angry at me, but to use kids as threatening, manipulating, or controlling is a way for me to dissappear. i have worked on a realtionship with my son, which is very positive. I am the personality type that would disappear when treated like that. respect is so high on my list. I am not the grammie that would take crap to be a grammie. I would give up my rights to have respact and follow my values.
That is where I am + a little wine. love, Leila

Oh, hun...
pain. Love, Leila
Huge (((hugs))) Leila!
Hi Leila,
I remember one time in our family, back before email, there was a mix up with some snail mail. My husband and I were staying at another relatives condo for a few days. We noticed that this relative didn't have any photos from our side of the family so we asked another relative, who sometimes didn't have very good things to say about the relative whose condo we were in, to send some photos that we could leave at the condo.
When we asked for the photos this relative made a few remarks but told us the photos were on the way. It ended up that there was a problem with the post office box and we were not able to get the photos out of the PO Box. We were very concerned that the relative that sent the photos may have written a note to us with more negative remarks about the relatives whose condo we were staying in. However, there was nothing we could do about it. There was no way for us to get the letter out of the POBox.
I was very upset about this since I was new to this family. I prayed and prayed.
I never found out what was in the letter but the relationship between these two relative began to improve after this happened. The relationship had been strained for over 30 years. It was never perfect but after this time there was a lot more communication and more kindness was expressed between the two.
All of this is to say -- things may not be as bad as they seem at the moment. You & DIL both love the grandchildren. That has to be a basis for something good. Love will open the way.
Warm regards,
peanuts
Prayers coming for best outcome. Sometimes the Universe takes things out of our hands for a reason. Let things be, hard as that is. You've done all you can. Waiting with you...
Hugs,
Gypsy
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Blessings,
Gypsy
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