DIL accepted my apology

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Registered: 03-26-2003
DIL accepted my apology
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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 9:26am
That is what she wrote and then said, let's put this behind us and have a good holiday. Sending out love did help. My son's letter was out to destroy me written in his lawyer, legal form. I have taken a hard step but a lot of damage is done. Most of you are younger, I am wondering how much we in-laws have to take to keep a family together. There are no apologies back. I am drained and devastated by my son's letter. I can concentrate on my other 2 sons coming on Christmas eve, that is our old tradition. Means a lot to me.
I know life is about living in the moment, a chore at times trying not to decide what others should do, maybe a light will dawn on them that they have been terribly cruel. sometimes forgiveness comes slowly. Love, Leila
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 10:00am

Leila, the first step toward reconcilation has been taken and now it's up to you to put it behind you as well.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 10:28am
thank you for your time and words. I can accept Todd, but not the abuse. He is abusive. That is the difference. I get bombarded with hate and anger. I have reached a point where it has taken its toll. When someone has hit you in the head with a rock, healing is not instantaneous. I can forgive, but do I want to go back for more? I have probably written too much about this. I always do my best, I am drained. Love, Leila
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Fri, 12-22-2006 - 5:57pm
You are right Barbara. Love, Leila