Q: How would you like to be remembered?

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Q: How would you like to be remembered?
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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 1:25pm

A happy 2007 to you all! Haven't been here in a while. I've been so busy with cat issues, family issues, etc. Hope you all spent your holidays in good health and good spirits.

I was reading an article today and this line popped out at me:

"How would you like to be remembered?"

I thought it'd make an interesting discussion here.

-gnd-

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 3:52pm

I thought it'd make an interesting discussion here.

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Registered: 03-09-2001
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 1:31pm

My own death has been on my mind, as I approach 60 this year, and my own mother died a few weeks after her 60th birthday, unexpectedly. The year my DD was born. New life and lost life all in the space of a few months. <:O

DH & I were talking about this a few weeks ago. I told him I wanted to be cremated and my ashes distributed over the Sierra mountains. I found my spiritual home there many, many years ago, as a camp counselor in college. I found my roots and began to know I had a connection to something deep and beyond myself. I told DH I didn't want a grave marker anywhere, because I wouldn't be there. I would be present in his memories and DD's memories, of me, in their hearts. Not in some chunk of dirt with a piece of concrete on top with my name on it. I didn't want my ashes entombed in a cemetery, much less my body. I will have returned to the Earth, to the Mother. My shell is empty when I am gone. DH wasn't too happy with my answer. He wants the traditional, like his mom & dad, buried next to each other.

I would like those who want to remember me, loved me, to gather with food and drink, celebrate my presence in their lives, hopefully, and remember me, the good and not so good. Be there for my DH and my DD, to comfort them. I am no heroine. I am nothing special. Just a woman who grew in awareness of Spirit a little bit, chafed under patriarchal societal norms that hamstrung my spirit and psyche some. A woman who tried, who got mired in her own mental processes, who did her duty, met her responsibilities and commitments, took time to smell the flowers, to read, to grow a little. Just an old woman who lived consciously and sometimes, unconsciously, too. I went Home. I would say, MOVE ON! ;)) LIVE! Don't miss me too much.

Gypsy
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Blessings,

Gypsy

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 3:02pm
Just quickly responding to what you said about not wanting a grave marker because you wouldn't be there. My father always made it a point to visit my mother's grave on Mother's Day and on her birthday. It was more the ceremony of it for me and him. So when he passed I was trying to find a design for his grave marker (bronze markers are used at this cemetary). And I was rushing around in a panic one year after his death to try to get one done. But I was told by a couple psychics that he's still close to this plane because he wants to hang around me, and I should remember to converse with him like we always did. True, he was so worried about leaving the "baby" behind alone, he was always protective of me. So I feel that going to the cemetary to visit him isn't such a priority. Because he's always around me. And people (relatives and close friends) sometimes speak of him as if he's still around me, without realizing it. Interesting, huh.
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 6:51pm

How would I like to be remembered?

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Registered: 01-20-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 8:05pm

And a Happy 2007 to you, as well (and thank you!).

Interesting question ~

My girls and I have actually discussed this. I want to be creamated (sp?) and preferably *sprikled* over the Rockies or in the woods of New England (or something). Beyond that I've told them to have whatever kind of "ceremony" they feel they *need* ('cos, hey, that's who it's for ~ I won't be around). But I've told them I'd rather it be a celebration of my Life than some morbid (or worse, "preachy") event. They said, that's what they want, too. It'll likely be a small deal w/ just people who actually knew me and really cared (no newspaper "ad" announcement!!) My fave tunes will play ~ both girls said "Stairway to Heaven" will be at the top of the list ~ (my all-time fave!) and lots of Enya, Loreena MacKennitt, Troika. The girls said they'll wear long/*flowy* dresses & bells (braclets & anklets) and will dance & blow bubbles . . . as we have done so many times together!!

I can't think of a better way to be remembered!!!

Namasthe, "M"

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 10:58am

I would just like to be a warm place in the hearts of the people who love me.